If a nation can rise no higher than it's woman, how does a woman ascend to her highest consciousness?
LUNATIC TO LUNAQUEEN
I remember years ago happening upon a book that changed my life while shopping at Camilla Alfred's Heal Thyself Deli/Colonic Center in Chicago about ten years ago. It was called "The Journey From Lunatic to Lunaqueen" by Myeka. Up and until that time I never really kept track of my internal moon cycle. I'd have a REALLY emotional day and realize the next day when my flow began that it was just my pre-moon time symptoms. I always thought to myself, I should plan ahead next time.
PEACEMAKER OR HELL-RAISER
The message that most echoed to me from Myeka's book, was that a woman's knowledge of her body and lunar cycle or lack thereof could possibly dictate whether you gave birth to peacemakers or violent beings i.e. hell raisers (my word, not hers). It's almost like the equivalent of having a magic wand and not knowing how to use it properly. You can do beautiful things with it, destructive things with it or have no power at all.
Ever notice when you or a woman you know is ovulating she's more magnetic, more feminine, feels more sexually charged and when she's going through what is known as PMS she doesn't mince words and is feeling more sensitive emotionally. By the way, a woman's pre-moon time energy and expression is NOT a "syndrome." She's not crazy, to say that is disrespectful and ignorant to say (insert a middle finger up emoji.). The wise know that a woman's changing lunar phases is a superpower not a disease; that if understood and honored, could immensely benefit her life and those in her orbit.
Women and the Moon have a special relationship, we're twins. As above, so below. The Moon's magnetic force affects bodies of water and every hueman being on the planet (even possibly the Universe). Hueman beings are 45% to 85% water so through the perpetual movement of the Earth in relation to the Moon each phase affects us.
There are four key moon phases:
New Moon, First Quarter, Full Moon, Last Quarter.
The New Moon
is an auspicious time to begin, start again, declare a vision, create an intention.
The First Quarter Moon
is the phase when the Universe is working with you to manifest your new moon intention.
The Full Moon
is the time to celebrate your harvest, manifestation, fruits, results in gratitude .
The Last Quarter Moon
is the perfect time to release, let go, cleanse, engage in completion.
For where two or three gather in my name,
there am I with them."
PICK UP YOUR WAND
Profound levels of manifestation can occur when you partner with your twin, Si"star" Moon. Observing the moon phases within and without (in the sky and in your womb) is utilizing a super power of manifestation. Doing this incorporates at least two universal laws: The Law of Correspondence (above and below) and The Law of Rhythm (cycles). It's like an heir not cashing the check, forfeiting their inheritance. Females have been given a great gift for creating and manifesting in the world. Cash the check sis!
Here's my Last Quarter Moon Ritual I'm facilitating with my SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook Community today at 11:11 am and/or pm (your time zone). Set your phone alert for 10:59 and rendezvous with your si"stars."
CLEANSE + FLOURISH
A Last Quarter Moon Ritual
Open the windows.
Burn sage or Dragon's Blood.
Tune in through your breath.
Relax every part of your body.
Vibe up your body vortices (chakras) by chanting:
Amen, Om, Hu or any other sound that resonates.
Pray Up In Gratitude: 111 thank yous if you really desire to be amped
Grab your mala beads or gratitude beads
Tune in to what is not working in your life, review the
toxicities, the energetic vampires, people, places and
things that get you down and anything that zaps your joy.
Review the benefit it has brought even if it is
simple as creating a contrast by which you desire better or more.
Give thanks for the benefits and lessons.
Take a deep breath and blow each one out.
Shimmy in celebration.
Drink plenty of water.
Shower or bathe.
Begin to fantasize and envision the desires of your heart.
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Day 23 of 3/12 Moons
Last Quarter Moon
Whew! Sharing daily notes on my personal culture of beauty "mostly daily" has been a challenge lately. Mama's been busy, productive and whirling all sort and form of power and magic offline.
The third New Moon of 2017 is tonight at 9:57 PM Central Standard Time in the sign of Aries and we're still in a Venus Retrograde. This is the "purrr"fect time to get clear on who we are and how we express love and beauty in our lives and in the world. This is an auspicious time to tap into your Divine Voice and declare your intention for manifestation for the next twenty-eight moon cycle.
ARIES = "I AM"
Aries energy is all about the expression of ''I AM" energy so beautifully exemplified by Diana Ross, Chaka Khan, Aretha Franklin. The freedom of being, doing, and having whatever the *%*# you desire and giving zero flips about what others think about it. On Planet Aries "Everything is possible." The true superwoman energy.
INVITATION: TONIGHT WITH ME
Take advantage of this profound opportunity to manifest M & Ms (magic and miracles) with a New Moon Ritual. This evening our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook Community will engage in a "Manifesting Magic & Miracles" SHIMMY CIRCLE at 9 PM Central.
In preparation for our session I'm going to give you a bit of a hook-up.
"NO BURDEN IS HEAVY WHEN EVERYONE LIFTS."
Since the beginning of 2017, I guide a secret community of women who are the rebels, mavericks, creators, and humanitarians of our society to manifest their goals and visions in the area of beauty, health . . . LIFE! Ever wish someone would ask you about that goal you made to make sure you got it done? Well, we do that with a lot of other goodies, like impromptu oracle readings, monthly beauty dossiers, etc.
So, we're on the tail-end of a month-long "Loving My Beautiful Bodacious Body" series in which members have gotten twelve out of sixteen tutorials about how to integrate beauty movement rituals in their day-to-day. Moving your body takes energy and produces energy. Energy begets energy. If you've had stagnation in your cash, love and creativity flow then perhaps it's time to "Shake Your Honey Pot" beautiful. From your pocketbook (both of them) to your magnetism (Ms. Honey Pot drawin' in those bees) this tutorial, if done as intended will attract cash your way and lubricate your ability to manifest the desires of your heart.
Let's put it to the test.
This North African dance move commonly referred to as "Belly Dance" is beneficial for your "lady parts," "yoniverse," "celestial garden" and every term that refers to your female reproductive system. With regular (a day or two a week) belly dancing you'll not only ease discomfort and the length of days on your menstrual "moon" time, but also amplify your magnetism.
How do you say "bees to honey?" Yup! You'll be stirring up that feminine sweetness within.
Make sure to hydrate after your session because if you do it right, you will break a bit of a sweat. This is a private video. The password is: shimmy
So come on and work that power and magic like the Child of Possibility, Aries. Don't be stingy with the SHINE. The Universe and Heavens are ours. What are you manifesting in this moon cycle?
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Day 30 of 2/12 Moons
It's been a very busy and productive week over here at the A U S E T headquarters but I had to stop to address a question that was posted in our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook Community. It is as follows . . .
How are women successful in living their softer side while still maintaining their fierceness? My men have only acknowledged my ability to do anything, which is true if the effort is ordained by God. But at times I, too, get overwhelmed and just want him to take me in his arms and say,
"Baby, it's gonna be alright."
How do I get that?
AKUA: I'm not sure I've reached mastery, but I do know it's a dance. Tango dancing is a great illustration of this concept. Having the Spirit of vulnerability and surrender = femininity. Femininity calls forth the masculine in a masculine man, which is more rare than you would think.
SAMANTHA: I really don't understand what this means. What exactly is the spirit of vulnerability?
I have a feeling that Lynn and Samantha's questions are questions that many, many, many women have. They are great questions, important questions. The world and our culture doesn't seem to be a safe place for the Spirit of vulnerability to be expressed. Just months from the largest women's march in history, we're in a climate where the passing patriarchal era of consciousness is bumping heads with a more feminine and integrated era of consciousness. Our grandmothers, mothers, and daughters have very different experiences in the dance of the feminine/masculine dynamic; within themselves first, let alone interaction with their male counterparts. With slogans like, "The Future Is Female." we've got to be careful not to just replace male-expressed supremacy with a semblance of the same supremacy by females, because it still doesn't represent integration or balance. That's a whole 'nother topic so let's continue with this one.
"Baby, it's gonna be alright."
The topic at hand is a woman asking how does she "live her softer side while still maintaining fierceness," for someone to have your back and provide reassurance when you feel overwhelmed. Well first of all, everyone has moments - girls and boys, men and women all may need to be reassured that "it's gonna be alright" from time-to-time when what's seen and experienced is questionable.
Somehow being in need or desiring reassurance is not an admirable trait in women to other women in our culture. There seems to be a celebration and aspiration to be independent and having it all together without a single crack of need. After all, a fierce, bad b*tch definitely wouldn't seem to require, need, want or desire support, assistance, or rescuing. If you ever watched the Cosby Show back in the 90s, remember when Cliff Huxtable got in trouble at an all-women's book club he attended with his wife Clair when he suggested that women have an innate need to be rescued by their man? Me and my male counterparts grew up with the powerful, sassy and dynamo feminist hero Clair Huxtable who never seemed to ever break a sweat in all her "I am woman, hear me roar."- perfection. Isn't it time to rethink the idea that you can't be fierce and soft at the same time?
V U L N E R A B I L I T Y
When I think of vulnerability I think of the most magnetic and endearing beings on the planet: babies. Baby mammals of all kinds. My mother's heart-warming and beloved furry baby i.e. dog Lola for instance has no shame in how she expresses her desire for attention, affection, or any need she may have. She will roll over on her back with legs WIDE open, belly exposed and look you dead in your eye waiting to be rubbed. There's not one bit of coyness or passive-aggressiveness. She is clear about what she wants from you. It makes sense that people create deep connection, intimacy and loyalty with their pets.
Southern California, home of the oh-so-isolating Hollywood, a not so vulnerable-friendly town is also a big dog town. When I lived in Venice Beach, California, I'm pretty certain one out of every three people had a furry baby.
When I think of vulnerability, I think of children who are quick to display their feelings, ask for what they desire up front and to quickly move on from hurt once the moment is over. Could it be that those who are the most "susceptible to harm" are the most endearing? Small, delicate, fragile, open. Look at the puppy and kitten sleeping above. Anything could happen to them and yet they sleep so peacefully. Vulnerable is defined as: "susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm."
When we interface with another in relationship we are susceptible to physical, emotional, financial, etc. attack, harm, rejection and ruin. Scary stuff for most of us.
C O N T R O L
There once was this woman who was in a relationship with a Leo man who gave, gave, gave, gave, gave. He did everything for her. She loved it, in fact she was in heaven - for awhile. He made her feel like such a queen until she realized that he maintained control through his giving. She began to notice that he would not accept nor allow her to do for him; like cooking or reciprocate in any way. It occurred to her the more she got to know him, that it felt very one-sided and it wasn't so much that he was treating her like a queen but his way of maintaining control, ALL THE TIME. Because there was no dance of mutual giving and receiving between them they never developed a deep connection or true intimacy because he just wasn't receptive. It began to feel very unnatural and out of balance to her so she ended the relationship and remained friends with him. Of course, all Leo women and men are not the same. Human beings are complex, it goes way beyond one's sun sign. At the same time, there do seem to be over-arching characteristics in people that share the same sun sign and even more so in quadruplicities. Quadruplicity? Yes. Quadruplicity.
Q U A D R U P L I C I T I E S
I recently took an IQ test and noticed that a great deal of the questions had to do with seeing patterns. I've recognized a bit of a pattern with how easy it is for certain sun/moon signs to be vulnerable while others have a very difficult time with it.
LEO • SCORPIO • AQUARIUS • TAURUS
ARIES • CANCER • LIBRA • CAPRICORN
GEMINI • VIRGO • SAGITTARIUS • PISCES
Quadraplicities are groups of four by mode of zodiac influence when one feels stimuli or somehow put under tension. It's how they get their elemental (emotional, physical, mental, spiritual) needs satisfied. Those groups are as follows:
Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius, Taurus
resistant, unchanging, steadfast, determined, self-reliant, stubborn, passive-aggressive.
Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn
initiator, enterprise, active, quick, ambitious, driven, domineering, sets the tone, dynamic
Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces
adaptable, assimilating, go with the flow, chameleon, flexibility, resourceful, diplomatic
Each characteristic can be beneficial as well as self-defeating depending upon how the mode is implemented or expressed. It would take a professor of social work born under the sign of Scorpio to teach on the topic "The POWER of Vulnerability," in her famous TED talk. Born 18 November, Brene Brown became a household name through her alliance with Oprah on the subject of vulnerability. Scorpio, the most unlikely to be vulnerable. It's funny how we teach what we seek to master, as the way of the fixed Scorpio is not that of being vulnerable but of being in control, unreceptive and resistant.
So, what is the answer to Lynn's question of "how to be soft while fierce at the same time?"
First things first, any and everyone doesn't deserve your vulnerability. It's a casting pearls before swine type of thing. We wouldn't leave our precious children or puppies around anyone who's questionable. Once you've determined that it's a safe environment, open yourself up to the dance of giving and receiving. A dance that ignites a spark, connection and intimacy that creates something electric. Give yourself over to an openness and honesty that is bigger than your learned political, manipulative agenda - be unrefined, like a child before it learns to alter his/her essential Self to get a predetermined outcome.
Open your heart, expose your belly, be wide open and willing to be
susceptible to the thing that you fear.
HOW ARE YOU GOING TO BE VULNERABLE TODAY?
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Day 20 of 2/12 Moons
The House of Beatrice: Me and my sister, daughters and mother
photo: Rashid Zakat
Someone said that there are Seven Wonders Of The World, well me and Stevie (Wonder that is who sang "Ebony Eyes") don't agree. Every single baby girl is born a "Wonder Of The World" . . . until the world tells her otherwise.
Today International Women's Day is observed around the world. Over a hundred years ago, it began as an outcry for women being treated like second-class citizens. The mission of this observance is defined as "the struggle for women's rights."
I believe that my mouth speaks things into existence so perhaps it's time to let go of "The Struggle" for anything. We see a hundred years later from the inception, struggling for anything leads to more struggle. It just doesn't work metaphysically speaking. I say that we speak of and into the Victory that this world works for EVERYone. And that work begins in our hearts, our consciousness and then shows up in our own relationships and households.
My feeling is that babies, girls or boys, aren't born with a drive to oppress, exploit and abuse. "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation." Mothers have a responsibility to raise sons that honor, protect and provide for women and children.
The day will come that women under, over and "inner"stand that allowing your sons to take on oppressive, exploitive, abusive and supremacist ideologies based on differences, that those same sons will grow to oppress, exploit, abuse and stand over in superiority to you and your daughters. It's time for women once and for all to be concerned not only with the "me" but with the "we"; no matter how different your sister looks, prays and expresses her feminine power. It's always been about the "we." When can take clues from nature in that when we share energetic space our menstrual rhythm syncs with each other.
The boys and men are watching us.
We teach our men and sons how to treat us as they are watching how our relationships with each other women express and unfold. So:
Mothers (that includes Aunties because they're all our daughters) cultivate and encourage the beauty, magic, power and majesty of your daughters.
Daughters (and nieces because they're all our mothers) honor, respect and give tribute to your mothers, for without her you wouldn't BE.
Sisters, desire more for your sister than you would desire for yourself because one day you may need her to pull you up or along.
So I'll say again, it's up to us to tap into our divine and feminine power because after all we birthed those that oppress us. We see that when we teach our sons to oppress, exploit and abuse others based on differences, we cultivate a world in which you yourself are oppressed, exploited and abused. Your zenophobic seeds will harvest and that chicken will come home to roost.
If we desire first-class treatment, it begins with how we treat ourselves, our si"stars" and all those souls who come to this planet that happen to be different from us.
I'm very optimistic we are upon a Golden Age of Consciousnes and the circle of huemanity will again become complete. It's simple. The solution is at hand. We struggle no more. We now flow.
Happy International Women's Day to my fellow Wonders of The World.
Please SHARE this message. Please LIVE this message.
Thank you for reading.
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Day 11 of 2/12 Moons
Normally I speak of possibility and maintain a worldview of "YES." My daily commitment is to focus on gratitude, appreciation, abundance and plenty of this life. Based on what I have observed in my time in this physical realm, I find a few things worrisome to the ultimate vision that this world works for "every One." I can't help but to perceive an agenda underneath the propaganda in which we are bombarded with. The last few days I have been turning the following questions over in my head:
What if . . .
The resources on planet Earth were not enough to sustain the entire "consuming" population?
What if . . .
It was determined that the Earth's "consuming" population needed to be reduced so that its resources would not be depleted?
What if . . .
The dominating global superpower concocted a plan to reduce the "consuming" population of the Earth?
How would that be determined?
What would be the determining factors for one's annihilation or survival in this effort?
Who would be the most favorable individuals to remain on Planet Earth?
Who would be the least desirable individuals to remain on Planet Earth?
Have you ever asked yourself:
"Why am I valuable?"
"Do I add value?"
"What do I produce?"
"Does my existence add or take away from the lives of others?"
"Am I primarily a producer or a consumer?"
"Am I primarily a giver or taker?"
Yes, it's the era of all sort and form of slayage and fleekdom, but at the end of the day are you necessary?
Thank you for reading.
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Day 9 of 2/12 Moons
"Let us not become weary in doing good,
for at the proper time we will reap a harvest
if we do not give up."
Apparently the richest and most influential people on the planet are in the
business of war, drugs and sex trafficking using any means necessary.
Let Us Not Become Weary While Doing Good
Somehow our gifts, talents, abilities, life's work, purpose and/or calling are
the things that bring us alive, put us in the flow, the zone, vibes us up . . .
If you're truly occupying your day with the things that invigorate, exhilarate,
and refresh you then it's a wise deduction that you'll never tire of it.
The goodness in you must be expressed, it cannot be denied.
If you keep focusing on the LOVE for what you do then the
results and rewards become a non-issue.
For At The Proper Time We Will Reap A Harvest
As one who is certified in Urban Sustainable Horticulture as well as coming
from a family of farmers and gardeners, on a DNA level I'm clear that
manifestation, birthing, and sowing a harvest has a natural rhythm and cycle.
MAKE sure the seed is viable.
ANALYZE the soil for suitability to seed.
TILL the soil.
PLANT the seed at the appropriate time and environment.
WATER the seed and soil.
FEED the seed and soil.
EXPOSE the seed to light.
PRUNE i.e. get rid of any weeds.
REAP your harvest when the time is right.
If We Do Not Give Up
So as you see there are proper steps to the sowing of a harvest.
There is also a proper cycle to this process.
If you give up or quit before the process is complete,
no matter how long it takes you will not bring to life the very thing you've been called to do.
And if it was an IN-SPIRED (Spirit) action then it's your responsibility to see it through.
I know it seems that the rich get richer, the bad people get away with murder
and the good guy/girl never wins but . . .
this isn't always true.
Be encouraged that if you utilize the laws of the Universe to manifest, the Universe has no judgment. If you follow the recipe to a "T" you get what you set out to get. It's like baking a cake, if you follow a great recipe, you'll get a great cake. It doesn't matter if you're an evil "arsehole" or a holy saint. You must follow the directions.
If we desire to cross the finish line and experience the
desires of our hearts we must follow the rhythm and cycle of harvesting.
It's time to get your hands "dirty" so get to it.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 5 of 2/12 Moons
Be careful and clear about what you ask for. I declared 2017 as a year of M & Ms. That is Magic & Miracles. No matter how often I experience magic and miracles I don't think it will ever get old or lose it's "wow" value.
Today I'm going to share a story about a rose quartz crystal and intention and how my irregular heartbeat became regular.
In the founding story of Israel, the author of the book of Exodus in the "Holy" Bible writes about the precise and mindful construction of priestly garments using "precious stones." I like to call "the precious stones" crystals.
My Cherokee ancestors honored the power and energy of the "Stone People," knowing the wisdom, knowing and gifts of these ancient formations. In the ritual of Sweat Lodge, stones are placed on fire and heated for hours. At the proper time the "Stone People" are introduced and honored within the Sweat Lodge then doused with water. In partnership with "The Stone People, the steam rises and encompasses the enclosed "lodge." We energetically release and cleanse ourselves.
Minerals, stones and meteorites that have formed over time inside the Earth embody gifts, talents and abilities like people. These are products of stardust that formed our Solar System billions of years ago. Imagine that the intelligence of these ancient "precious stones" have a story to tell, wisdom to share, metaphysical and healing powers to deliver.
About thirty years ago, I designed a wedding dress for a friend of mine who was marrying a Native American man. I used rose quartz as part of the Aztec design knowing that the energy of the the beads carried the energy of love. Rose quartz has been part of my life for awhile so the other night when I was over-exposed to the EMFs from my computer, tablet, cell phone, I was feeling a bit loopy, high-strung and noticed a bit of heart palpitation as I laid my body down to rest.
Years ago when I first acquired my stethoscope I listened to my heartbeat and detected a slight irregular beat and grew accustomed to it just being that way. I just figured it illustrated that I truly walk to beat of my own drum.
Well a couple evenings ago, the heart palpitations were a bit worrisome so I closed my eyes, relaxed my body and began deep-controlled breathing. My inner oracle said, "listen to your heart." So I grabbed my stethoscope and began to listen to my heartbeat. Then she said, "hold the rose quartz to your heart." I did and as I held this crystal in my left hand (feminine and receptive) giving thanks for it's gifts that it was sharing with me. For about five minutes I just breathed, held the crystal and listened to my heartbeat until it began to beat regularly. I was amazed that it not only happened, but in such a short amount of time. Something told me to Google "rose quartz, irregular heartbeat." Low and behold it was revealed that rose quartz is actually used for regulating an irregular heartbeat. This was just confirmation again to LISTEN. Listen to your inner oracle. Like these precious stones, our relation, there are eons of wisdom within us, if we'd only LISTEN
It's been five days, this morning I checked and my heartbeat is still beating "regular."
Do you have rose quartz in your crystal collection?
This is one of the essential crystals to have in your beauty medicine bag.
To order a rose quartz CLICK HERE.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 3 of 2/12 Moons
. : s u p e r w o m a n g o d d e s s s t y l e : .
Speak your genius superwomangoddess, because what you
have to say is important. When they listen closely, watching
every word come out of those beautiful lips make sure:
1. You stay HYDRATED so your lips remain smooth and supple.
2. EXFOLIATE the ridges of your lips so lip color doesn't feather.
3. To use a LIP BRUSH when wearing high-contrast hues for a perfectly shaped pucker,
4. To BUILD up color layer by layer.
5. To make an "O" with your lips, then take your index finger
and twist inside the "O" to capture color on the inner
lips so you don't end up with lip color on your teeth.
6. Say a PRAYER: "May my lips speak words that heal and inspire."
7. Leave your love "MARK" on your favorite sweetheart.
On Bianca's Lips: Untitled Red by A U S E T : B E A U T Y
edible. lead-free. pristine.
How many relationships have been destroyed or never initiated by the lack of communication?
Parents? Sisters? Brothers? Children? Girlfriends? Boyfriends? Mates? Mentors? Bosses? Employees? Business Partners?
Communication is the gateway to all of the most beautiful things in life. We occupy our time on enhancing our looks, our homes, our education, our financial picture but if you don't know how to communicate with people one-on-one, all those things are pretty meaningless because nobody will want to be around ["yo' *ss"]. LOL. (I literally laughed out loud.)
Which brings me to my next statement: LOVE DORSEY.
She's everything I never wanted to be: loud, hood, potty mouth.
Well? I kinda love her because she speaks the truth and I respect that.
Being someone who is from Kentucky, raised on the southside of Chicago as well as the suburbs and lived all over Los Angeles as an adult, I have a bit of a love affair with the "hood." Some of my favorite aunties have the heart of "Cookie," brotha friends that have the enterprising spirit of Jay-Z and then some are actual real-life superstars. The thing I love the most about the "hood" is the REALNESS: unrefined, unvarnished, RAW.
Yup! I like a little hood with my boujee boho.
I discovered this young woman on Facebook. Someone posted a video about leveling up your friendships which when I first watched it had about a 200K views and at the time of writing this it's over a million views. So apparently the si"star" resonates with many of us.
Last night I listened to an hour-long "rant" about COMMUNICATION entitled "Majority of conflicts are caused by . . ." [I'm not able to link the original video so search for her on Facebook]. She has a Youtube channel but this one isn't there.]
She goes on to talk about key elements in conflicts caused by poor communication with friends, mates, children and at work.
A closed mouth doesn't get fed.
Very few people can actually read your mind.
Just learn yourself, speak your truth with your heart, seek to be understood while you seek to understand.
My friend Nadia Khalil and one of our master teachers on the 2012: Love & Beauty Journey reminds us that Love is Truth. When you speak and live in truth love is present and possible. Yes that can be scary when you are attached to people, situations, etc. That brings us to another topic: VULNERABILITY. The freedom to be, express, live with "Zero Fs." Very much like the freedom of children.
Communicating what's truth for you with vulnerability is what creates intimacy and connection. There's no way around it. It just resonates.
So stop being fake. Stop ASSuming. Because assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME.
Just Ask. Tell. Request.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 27 of 1/12 Moons
painting: cosmic dragon by sherri ponzi
I don't know about you but I don't like to cook in a dirty kitchen or create art in a messy studio. There's something about an environment of order and simplicity that elevates and invites in creative expression. I'm going to share with you how I invite my genius, muse, whisper of the Divine in for a rendezvous.
This morning I awoke with the voice again. My creative genius within.
It had been quiet for awhile . . .
Oprah describes them as whispers. It's true. It feels like that. It's like you're hearing a voice from a headset while you're on stage performing. A great deal of creative people like painters and musicians rely on drugs to tap in to this other world. It's not the only way to rendezvous with The Muse. Earth, Wind & Fire proved this by living a clean eating, holistic lifestyle. I often say if people breathed, did yoga and ate properly why on Earth would you need to do drugs to get that feeling of ascension?
During the Winter Solstice I was rendezvousing with my creative genius throughout the day. The whispers were rampant. About a month ago or more, a knee injury kept me from moving my body and training for a dance competition that's been in the works for awhile. And for whatever reason, lately I've been eating junk food; granted mixed in with my high-vibe foods but eating garbage none-the-less. I've noticed the rendezvous with the whispers have been scarce ever since.
I'm very sensitive so I can tell when a food is high vibe quality or toxic and insane. I feel it's effects in my body, in my head. Unfortunately, some of my favorite foods are not beneficial but toxic to my body, like an allergy. Depending on what's happening in my life I'll eat those "offensive-to-my-body" food, or shall I say "Lola Yum Yum" eats them anyway. That's why I have no judgment of alcoholics or any other substance abuser because if I eat a donut knowing what it's going to do to me what's the difference really?
So Sunday evening I stopped this road to nowhere in its tracks. I got tired of feeling sluggish, emotional in ways that was unproductive and just not good in my body. It's been three days of clearing out while feeling bad, but this morning I could tell that my genie is back. Maybe it didn't go anywhere, perhaps the voice was just muffled by all the nonsense inhabiting space. Yup, The Voice was just drowned out by uncouth visitors.
Everything is energy. Never created nor destroyed just transferred, transformed and transmuted. The spirit, intention and vibe that our food is created with accompanies it's flavor, texture, and nutrition. Ever wonder the essence of a Cheeto?
Cheetos? I know, I know better but then what we eat isn't always logical is it?
Sometimes in this big world the little girl who grew up without a daddy within feels vulnerable and foods from her childhood make her feel comforted.
Turns out genies don't like dirty kitchens. If you desire that muse, genius, whisper of the Divine to speak clearly, concisely and with resonance to you: clean out, clear out, and vibe up!
The New Moon is in a few days and Spring is coming this way within the month.
I have an intimate community of women who are preparing for a Spring Beauty Detox & Cleaning kick-off this weekend. I'll be showing you how to discover your personal holy hour of creativity. Would you like to join us?
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Thanks for reading.
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Day 26 of 1/12 Moons
Eagle Woman artwork: susan seddon boulet
"Time keeps on slippin', slippin', slippin' into the future.
I want to fly like an eagle to the sea
Fly like an eagle
Let my spirit carry me
I want to fly like an eagle
Till I'm free
Oh, Lord, through the revolution
"Fly Like An Eagle"
by The Steve Miller Band
F R E E D O M • P E R S P E C T I V E • P O W E R • D E S T I N Y • M O V E M E N T
Mother Of All Eagles artwork: susan seddon boulet
Have you ever had a dream where you're trying to run but
your legs felt so heavy you couldn't move?
Have you been feeling sluggish lately?
Do you feel disorganized, overwhelmed in confusion?
Has discouragement replaced your passion and motivation
for something you once were excited about?
Are you feeling like you desire more but there's so
much stuff preventing you from moving forward?
Where to start?
What if the plane you boarded had no weight restriction?
Would you feel comfortable flying across the country at thirty thousand feet in the air?
How can you soar like an eagle when you're weighed down with unnecessary stuff?
If you're ready to soar and live, it's time to lighten your load.
If it's not contributing to the quality of your flight, get rid of it.
This is the most beneficial time to do a bit of releasing as we're in the Last Quarter of the Moon (18 Feb to 25 Feb.). Let go and cleanse what is no longer contributing quality to your life.
In the midst of feeling sluggish, disorganized, overwhelmed . . . where to begin?
Begin with the basics. Look at what is no longer contributing to you
spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically?
Scour your life and look to release, let go and cleanse
what is weighing you down unnecessarily.
Look at every relationship, your body and it's organ systems
(digestive, lymphatic, liver, blood, etc. ), your physical environment
(home [bedroom, kitchen, bathroom, etc.] , office, car),
your clients, work projects, organizations, debts, etc.
The second New Moon of 2017 will be 26 February and the perfect time to create anew.
If it's not contributing quality to your life, give thanks for what
it's provided in the past and let that "shite" go. NOW.
How else will you get unstock, feel light as a feather and be able to soar at the speed of light?
You've got to clean it up, clear it out, let that "shite" go!
Thanks for reading.
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Day 24 of 1/12 Moons
IN THE WOMB
As hueman beings, we developed and formed in our mother's "waters" so returning to the waters daily to cleanse and restore is a powerful ritual that leaves you feeling reborn every time. There's an actual scientific process that occurs when you immerse yourself in water. During the day being exposed to positive ions through contact with EMFs (electromagnetic frequency) like computers, wi-fi, electronics we build up positive ions and once immersed in water those ions are neutralized.
BATHED IN LOVE
You can take the restorative practice of bathing a step further by imbuing your bathing water with intention. You can keep it as simple as you'd like or go full board. The New Moon and Full Moon phase of the moon makes this ritual even more effective.
BASIC LOVE BATH RITUAL
SAGE WAND or DRAGON'S BLOOD RESIN
sugar, salt, or pre-made
warm and filtered (get a shower filter and fill your tub with the shower head.
It's softening to the skin.)
coarse sea salt (also softening to the skin)
be careful if you have open wounds or irritated skin, it will burn
CRYSTALS: ROSE QUARTZ, RHODONITE, QUARTZ
(one or all)
Rose, Geranium, Ylang Ylang, Jasmine
(one or all)
BODY OIL, BUTTER, BALM, LOTION
CLEAR YOUR ENERGY
by smudging yourself with sage or dragon's blood resin.
dead skin and old energy from your body in tub prior to wetting skin
with salt, sugar or pre-made scrub.
off scrub with a quick shower.
SET THE INTENTION
for this bath by saying a little prayer, declaration, affirmation, mantra.
MAKE A MINI-MOUNTAIN of:
1 cup of salt, your crystals and about ten drops of essential oil
FILL THE TUB
with very, very warm water. Not too hot but enough that once it cools you won't get cold.
STEP INTO THE BATH and IMBUE
with your gratitude and desires.
BREATHE and GIVE THANKS
for all of the love, beauty and abundant blessings in your life.
HOLD EACH CRYSTAL
in your hands and whisper thank you to each for the specific gift they
bring to your bath and life.
LAY BACK & FANTASIZE
about moments in your life where you experienced the most delicious love moments and give thanks for each one as well as the person involved in that moment.
COLLECT YOUR CRYSTALS
and put them back into your crystal bag/box before releasing the bath water.
with a five second shower.
your body with Holy Butter™ or any body oil while your skin is still damp.
SHINE & RADIATE
the love and beauty dripping from your being in your home, at work and out in the world.
Contact me if you have any questions about anything I've shared. I know for some of you, some of these terms and culture is a foreign land and for others this is old hat. Wherever you are it's perfect. Make sure if you share this ritual or remix it to share the link of this note so that your reader can explore more.
COME SEE ME and PICK UP your SUPPLIES
This Friday, 17 Feb, I'll be at The Silver Room for Holy Hour Auset if you'd like to pick up your love crystals, Holy Butter™ and other supplies for your beauty medicine bag.
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Thanks for reading.
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Day 19 of 1/12 Moons
S O C I A L M E D I A C O M M E N T A R Y
"Oshun. Bey. I got my life."
"Everyone can go home now because Beyoncé just slayed the 2017 Grammys."
"Divine Beyoncé performing while expecting twins, beautiful tribute to women/mothers!"
"WTF? Although I didn't expect anything less from the high priestess of the illuminati!"
"Beyoncé is a woman in touch with her African ancestry. I love how she channeled the orishas Osun and Ibeji in her performance. There is nothing satanic, demonic or illuminati about this."
"As if she couldn't be more annoying . . . making profit out of her pregnancy.
Next a video with her umbilical cord?"
"So..am I the only Lucumi/Ifa practitioner that is not impressed by Beyoncé's recent Oshun
representations? I feel that her displays support the simplification of Oshun and disregard her many beautiful and complex layers."
E M O T I O N
We are emotional beings.
Even with being presented rock-solid facts, clear-cut logic, our emotions will often be the final word on a choice to be made. So what touches our emotions?
Images, Music, Words, Scents, Touch, Taste.
Experiences through our senses activate our emotions.
I spoke about messages and programming being slipped in through our trance state in SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES: Workin' Your Power & Magic Book One. That's why it's important that we always stand guard of our minds and the things we consume.
In 2002, when I began production of the yet-released documentary film "Searchin' For M'Sistahz" there was no mantra or hashtag of #blackgirlmagic.
When I set pen to paper to write SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES: Workin' Your Power & Magic Book One in 2005 beginning with the piece "Can A Sista Get At Least 50 Cent?" the talk about goddess or superwoman anything was so underground that I couldn't even find the word in my dictionary at the time.
Fifteen years later, #magic, #goddess, #superwomen and all things #feminine, #powerful and #magical are bristling with a resurrected effervescence. It's like the Spirit of our grandmothers have returned to get this thing right for us.
Enter Beyoncé's Lemonade album.
I don't own a TV, so I missed the Grammy's last night but thank goodness to Mr. Zuckerberg and friends, with social media we won't skip a beat. So within moments of opening up my Facebook feed I see a picture of Tina Beyincé-Lawson, Beyoncé and Blue Ivy that read: "Oshun. Bey. I got my life."
Ok. So I typed in the Facebook search box: Beyonce Grammys 2017 and found a nine-minute video entitled "Snatched." [VIDEO BELOW] and watched it.
As a woman of color, strongly aligned with my West African and Indigenous American heritage folded into a consciousness that I am/you are/we are embodiments of divinity, the pre-show images of the trio: daughter, mother and grandmother then the performance left me . . .
In fact, inspired and tingling.
With the name of the most ancient goddess in recorded history [AUSET] and a Venus in Leo, love, beauty and magic are full-time preoccupations for me and Beyoncé's Grammy performance was dripping with divine beauty and symbolism that I my consciousness effortlessly decoded. Looking like an Ethiopian painting, every woman in this on-stage drama wore a halo indicating illuminated consciousness (Heru = hero).
The imagery was ÜBER-feminine and deliciously maternal as Bey moved her pregnant with twins body in a tribe of diaphanous sistren. What a breath of fresh air.
Behind closed doors I've mentioned to my family members (because I don't believe in disparaging another's creative work. When you create, you "under"stand what it takes to materialize your visions so there's a level of respect I don't violate.) an element I found lacking in the Black Girl's Rock awards from year-to-year. Although we look soooo beautiful and put together, the celebration is mainly of women achieving in their masculine energy outside of the home with very little emphasis on the maternal aspect (nurturer/protector and not completely in the feminine domain but a balance of the both like the hemispheres of our brain working together) of who we are. The very essence of femininity expresses itself inside, within, the hidden. This was something I really respected and appreciate Martha Stewart for and that was bringing a spotlight and encouraging the art of creating home. If you are a female you embody three hundred and sixty degrees of femininity (#superwomenandgoddesses) so why be limited?
We are at a time in history where we're finding our footing within a shifting patriarchal to matriarchal reality in America. Growing pains if you will. So finding our balance and footing may take awhile but we WILL get there. It's the Age of Aquarius after all. Sometimes it takes a moment to balance and find a happy medium while at the same time there should be no question about the CIVIL RIGHT to choose our experiences and destiny in this life while being compensated equally.
First aware of Beyoncé through Destiny's Child in '98, it's been interesting to witness Beyoncé's very human-in-front-of-the-world growth and evolution as an artist, woman, daughter and mother.
Those close to me know that although I was jammin' to Destiny's Child like everyone else ("Bills, Bills, Bills", "Bugaboo," "Say My Name"). I began to wince a bit at Destiny's Child's proclamation of being "independent women" with a "F you, I don't need you because I got my own." message because by this time (2001) my commitment to the partnership, alliance and union of men and women was taking a deep root within. In the meantime, I saw a rise in the conversation of "black" women not able to find mates of their same culture, while many men were opting to couple with women outside of their own culture (which is fine but then leaves a bit of a void for the women who desire men of their same culture).
Union of man and woman as interdependent and complementary was a concept I was cultivating in myself in my own process of chipping away at the adverse American European/Christian mindset I was raised in for an exploration of who I was indigenously. I had an Ifa priest who taught me about the orishas and a Sioux shaman that provided an authentic Native American sweat lodge experience complete with making tobacco ties.
War and division of the sexes is not part of most of our pre-colonial heritage. Our most ancient African i.e. pre-colonized mindset was always matriarchal (the Jews/Hyksos/Shepherd Kings adopted this part of ancient African culture in their occupation of Egypt), which to be clear was not the opposite of patriarchy but the idea that where there is a god there is also a goddess. Matriarchy is the recognition of balance, yin and yang, male and female, masculine and feminine, husband and wife, heaven and earth, etc. Patriarchy and matriarchy were never in competition. I go more into this in the book. So at that time I didn't feel preaching about independence (a European concept of "rugged individualism" or "me") was the answer but interdependence (which is about "we" which is distinctly pre-colonial African worldview, as well as many cultures who live close to the earth and in sync with Nature.)
We never know what's happening in someone's household but to hear Beyoncé's message of letting the circle be unbroken between, daughters and mothers, grandmothers and grand-daughters, sisters, husband and wife is refreshing and inspiring.
In 2002, I declared that BET was one of the banes of my existence. As the law of attraction would have it, I later became friends with the head of programming and his wife at the time. I hated BET's misogynistic music videos back in the 90s because I felt it was ruining our already delicate relationship with our men as well as how "black" women we're viewed globally.
My passion for the elevation of the divine black feminine was deepened after working alongside Madonna's makeup artist on a string of 50 Cent music videos. I was inspired to DO something because I personally didn't feel represented in this media, nor any of the magical women I knew. My daughters were watching this culture unfold so I set out to change the perception of "black women" in America so began production of "Searchin' For M'Sistahz" a documentary highlighting the beauty, power and magic of "black" women. Pretty much, my own PR campaign for us, to save our families.
I realized this weekend that the images, music and media that I dreamt of creating and viewing for myself and daughters I was now watching, I now see in social media, in TV commercials, in films, yes there's still a great deal of nonsense and insanity offered on the buffet, but all I ever desired was to have a choice. Ghandi has been quoted often to "Be The Change You Wish To See In The World." I have begun to see that writing, publishing and creating a life's work around superwomen, goddesses, who work power, magic, holistic beauty has manifested in the culture that I live, participate and can now consume. I feel fed and represented somewhere out there.
My chant has been that I'd like to see women: all of us, of all hues, cultures, etc. get back in touch with the most powerful aspect of ourselves and that is the mysterious, internal, still, magnetic aspect of the multi-faceted spectrum of what it is to be female. If Queen Bey, the biggest entertainer in the world at this time is at the 2017 Grammy's inspiring and moving people with images of family, lineage, motherhood, sisterhood, femininity, love, beauty and magic I don't care of she's illuminati (LOL.), or if it's all a marketing gimmick or anything else. The mission is accomplished. The images have been embedded, the culture, the girls, the boys have been elevated and the possibility of the balance of masculine/feminine within/without manifest in our families is alive.
I saw the film "Daughters of the Dust" decades ago and it changed my life. Media IS POWERFUL. So similar to what I feel about President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama, if they did NOTHING in eight years politically: quite simply the image of them as an elegant, intelligent, bonded family is an image that taps into our emotion/aspiration that is more powerful than any speech will ever have.
Although I don't see myself as joining your beehive anytime soon because I have my own, thank you Mrs. Beyonce Knowles Carter for properly representing the three hundred and sixty degrees of what it is to be female for all the superwomen and goddesses before, here and after who work power and whirl magic. As Marimba Ani has written: Let the circle be unbroken.
Respect from your Virgo si"star": Daughter of Obatala and Priestess of Auset.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 17 of 1/12 Moons
Waxing Gibbous in Virgo
Raw photo from a recent family portrait photo session in celebration of my mother's birthday.
From time-to-time people ask what my skin care secrets are and what products I use.
My daughter posted a behind-the-scenes picture of her sister and me from the shoot on Instagram and the comments where as follows:
MB: "Your mother is so beautiful."
My daughter: "lol and she won't let us forget it."
MB: "feel free to pass on her skincare tips. I'm guessing she's an 8 glass of water a day type of lady."
My daughter: "@akuaauset MB wants to know your skincare secrets."
This was my response:
"First I do work I LOVE.
And having a career/business around holistic beauty helps with staying on track.
I'm mindful about my consumption on every level: spiritually, mentally, beauty products, food, people, music, etc. I do make it a point to drink half my body's weight in oz. of water and water-rich foods. Eat lots of fruits and veggies in their raw state including honeydew melons and avocadoes. It's VERY important to stay "regular." I greatly limit white refined and processed foods as well as alcohol and breads which are drying and coffee which is acidic. I dance and sweat as much as possible. I laugh and am silly which keeps me from staying stressed.
Thanks for the question. What are some of your secrets?"
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Day 14 of 1/12 Moons
After spending a refreshing and expansive weekend in DC with my family . . .
I was left with this question that I posted on my Facebook post yesterday.
Over the New Moon/Chinese New Year weekend I had some of my superhero friends over for dinner. Mastermind vegan Chef Tsadakeeyah of Majani Catering and his partner Naysa not only brought soulful black-eye pea fritters and hummus but a vat of gorgeous purple hibiscus tea. Yummm...
So as I write this, I'm sipping on a glass of purple hibiscus like wine this morning. I haven't had a cup of sorrel in a while and am reminded of the laundry list of über-beauty and health benefits (gorgeous skin, hair growth, weight release, boosted energy) of this powerful plant used in various ways: tea, paste, dried herb, blossoms in salads. Check it.
Great Source of Potassium + Great For The Heart
Potassium is an essential mineral as a vasodilator.
A Diuretic + Beneficial For The Kidneys
a bit of a kidney flush as your urine takes toxins, fats, salts, water with it.
Soothes Dry Itchy Skin
Perfect during the cold winter months.
Vitamin C-Rich Immune System & Collagen-Building
Vitamin C is a vital molecule for skin health.
High Iron i.e. Energy + Hair Grower
If you suffer from anemia, iron's been known to resuscitate the oxygen in your blood as well as boost your energy and hair growth.
High Antioxidant + Anti-Cancer Properties
Skin protecting and regenerating while known to kick the butt of those cancerous mutant cells.
Rich in The Beauty Vitamin: A
A godsend for keeping the eyes healthy and the skin beautiful.
Calcium-Rich and Bone-Fortifying
Strong bones, teeth and joint health anyone?
Weight-Release Inspiring & Fiberous
If you know me, I always speak of keeping that colon clean for beautiful skin. This fiber-rich flower will keep it movin'.
DON'T OVER-DO-IT WARNING: Consume in moderation, sorrel/hibiscus contains the toxin, oxalic acid. I would use in conjunction with a cleanse every now and then.
How To Prepare Jamaican Sorrel Tea
There's so much to learn and so many recipes to be had. Enjoy researching yourself. Here are a few links to get started with:
Thanks for reading. Here's to our über-beauty and health!
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Day 5 of 1/12 Moons
What was your mother or father's greatest advice they ever gave you?
"Just be yourself."
I first heard, "People prefer the devil they know over the angel they don't." on the show "Touched By An Angel" a bunch of years ago.
That quote is designed to speak of our resistance to change even if that change would represent something beneficial to us. This quote popped into my head this morning in regard to this topic - Just Be Yourself. We've seen clearly in our political climate that a great deal of people would rather deal with a "flawed" human being that was clear about who they are, plain and simple than the vague and untrustworthy.
It was third grade and I was uncomfortable in my new class. My mother said: "Just be yourself."
At such a young age, I didn't have a clue about what she meant or who I was. Decades later, it's the most brilliant advice I've ever received.
If we desire RESPECT, LOVE, AFFINITY with others we must be TRUE to ourselves.
There can be no respect, love or real affinity without us presenting our raw, unfiltered, true selves (over time, not in one sitting). After all, respect, love and affinity are developed from TRUTH. Without truth there is no integrity, nothing to stand on. Truth doesn't mean you have to be mean or unkind, it just means that you honor who you are, what you require and desire. Even if you experience kick-back from others, they will subconsciously admire, feel safe with and desire your presence in their lives because you feel SOLID - you have integrity.
People pleasers feel warm and fuzzy serving a purpose in the hospitality industry but in real life, in real one-on-one connections TRUTH is the glue, TRUTH is the magnet, TRUTH is the flow, the rhythm, TRUTH is home.
How can you FEEL someone or something if the truth of them/it isn't there? They are just saying and doing what they think you want to hear and do. Even though we may enjoy the experience, in the background, in our heart, something will just not resonate . . . because we sense something's not quite right, or true.
If you're an *sshole, be an *sshole.
If you don't like something, say so.
If you don't want to do something, you don't have to do it.
Speak with kindness, yet clear, concise and straightforward.
We tend to feel secure when we know EXACTLY what is what, while ambiguity makes us feel uncertain and insecure.
If you're playing nicey-nice, being a doormat, a people pleaser, a brown-noser, a politician, you're being an imposter, you're living a lie and no one is loyal, would die for or would knowingly dedicate their life to a liar.
I had some tough times in third grade and I ultimately had to neutralize some bullies that teased and taunted me. When this nice, pretty little girl showed her other side in an after-school fight, it was all smiles and respect from that moment on.
Take the time to get to know who you are, what you like and don't like, what you require and desire. Be unapologetically you, then and only then will you find your true tribe, your true fans and it will be worth all those that took offense because you honored your truth and self first.
Yes, we may complain, protest, kick and scream all the way but we stick with the "devil" that we KNOW.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 4 of 1/13 Moons
Are you fascinated by heist films like: The Italian Job, The Thomas Crown Affair, Flawless, Ocean's Eleven, Entrapment, Now You See Me, Dirty Rotten Scoundrels, ?
ORDER + PLANNING + STRATEGY
What makes the thief successful is their excellence in organization, planning and strategy. Perhaps the faithless leave nothing to chance so organization, planning, and strategy insure success. Perhaps the faithful leave too much up to chance expecting it all to just work out. What if the "righteous" utilized this level of science in carrying out their visions instead of leaving much to faith, hope and their very best wishes?
Ever wonder how the popularity of the mini-Cooper got it started in America? When The Italian Job film came out I started to see more people driving mini-Coopers. If you haven't watched The Italian Job (2003) check it and witness the level of flawless teamwork of talented thieves and technicians coming together to steal thirty million dollars in gold without a gun but using: precision timing (to the second), flawless planning and strategy.
"The fall of nations and empires has always
come about first by the disorganized spirit."
Marcus Mosiah Garvey Jr.
the team's mastermind and thief since he was just a boy organized
the crew seeing the whole picture to cover all the angles.
Old-school safe cracker
safe and vault "technician"
demolition and explosives expert
a premier wheelman i.e. "driver"
LYLE aka Napster:
There's only one drawback in the lifestyle of a thief and that's when you steal from life, it steals from you. There are universal principles at work so keep it righteous in the unfolding of your great plans, enterprises and visions.
Thanks for reading.
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Day 28 of 13/13 Moons
Arabic: al' Jamal جمال
Chinese (simplified): 美女
Farsi (Persian): زیبایی
German: die Schönheit
Hebrew: yoffi יוֹפִי
Hindi: sundarata सुंदरता
Japanese: bi, Utsukushi-sa 美しさ
Korean: aleumdaum 아름다움
Polish: piȩkno, uroda
Did I miss any?
If so, ADD below.
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Day 27 of 13/13 Moons
For years I've said that I'm the safest woman for your husband to be around because if I know that a man is in a relationship or married I'm NOT interested. Mainly, because I need to be the priority and I'm clear that I have no desire to share a mate. I know many are involved in polygamous, open, polyamorous relationships and such but at the end of the day . . . not interested.
True story . . .
When a man who finds you on Facebook says:
Man: "Akua you may remember me from last night. This world is so small as it appears we are connected by associations and friends. I hope you and your mom made it home safely."
Akua: "Yes. I remember you. You found me. Thank you for that . We did. Thank you for taking care of my mom."
After a bit of casual back and forth . . .
Man: xxx-xxx-xxxx best between 7-4
There are so many things I take issue with this in addition to meanwhile I've expressed no interest in him. "best between 7 to 4?"
Is that pm to am, or am to pm?
Those are odd hours. My intuition tells me it's fishy.
So I Google him to find that he's been married for 19 years.
Meanwhile, I'm friends with his daughter on Facebook.
So I respond . . .
Akua: "Not sure why I am calling. Aren't you married? 7 am to 4 pm? or 7 pm to 4 am? tisk tisk shame on you."
. . . BUT HE'S A SUPERSTAR
Years ago one of my dear divorced friends was being heavily pursued by a very married A-list celebrity. She was having a bit of a dilemma because this man is a very desirable superstar. I encouraged her saying: "If you ever want to be happily married to YOUR guy, don't even think about this. There will be a price to pay." As far as I know she didn't and she has been happily married to her best friend for years now. Do until others as you would have them do unto you.
WHAT IS FOR YOU, IS FOR YOU
New-thought author and founder of Hay House, Louise Hay has a bit to say about being dishonest as well as stealing. "Whatever you give out in life comes back to you, always. And if you take from life, it will take from you. It is that simple." She says it's like saying to the Universe: "I don't really deserve the good in my life, I have to sneak around and take it."
CLEAR, CLEAN, FEARLESS
Sometimes we attract these experiences to give us an opportunity to exhibit integrity and clear, fearless communication. Social media and the internet can be a beautiful place for connection as well as a place where serial creeps lurk to find a way into your life. Listen to your intuition, be fearless and clear in your communication. At the end of the day, it's our responsibility to keep things clean, honest and honorable. Sure it doesn't seem fair because it "takes two to tango" but if women will be the Maatian compass of their queendoms, then there will be integrity, order and balance in our relationships, community. And we will attract what is ours by divine consciousness. Be clear, honest and honorable and you will attract what is for you and only for you.
OPEN, POLYGAMOUS, POLYAMOROUS, ETC.
I'm aware that many people intentionally participate in open relationships, polygamy, polyamory, etc. Yet there are still honorable modes of connecting with potential mates. In everything there must be order or there will be chaos.
Most men in relationships are honest and honorable and not lurking around on social media to engage with you. More often than not, men will do the right thing even if they feel an attraction to someone other than their beloved/beloveds. It's natural and normal to feel attraction to more than one person in your lifetime. Human beings are not naturally monogamous (mating once in a lifetime), so there's that. Women are the guides of society. Being magnetic, where we go, men follow. Let's not abuse our power. If we will be a stand for keeping things clean, honest and honorable in interactions with men who are in committed relationships, there's less of an opportunity for things get to the point-of-no-return.
So today, contemplate the question:
"Are you husband/boyfriend safe?"
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Day 23 of 13/13 Moons
The DEATH Train
We can't even pretend not to notice all the death around us in the world. It's like there's a big party happening in another realm and people are quickly making their exit to get there.
As a little girl, my relationship with death was knowing that when people died they would be buried underground in a casket. What a scary thought in my young mind. Surely nothing I'd have to deal with anytime soon. But it created an uncomfortable feeling about dying until recently . . .
The idea of death isn't what it used to be to me as a young girl, it's nothing to run from or be afraid of when you see life metaphysically; that we are co-creators of our experience here and "there" and that we have freewill to power that experience. I'm not leaving this physical realm until I choose to. (Yup. You did indeed hear my "black" woman sass.) When I hear that someone has "died," if they were close to me or influential in my life, it's more that I will miss their physical presence in this Earth realm.
I don't see it as some tragic thing unless it was through tragic or painful means that they left this realm. On some level I believe that we approve the experiences that we have because perhaps the soul, the God force within desires to experience the human contrast from it's omniscient, omnipotent, omnipresent being of nothingness. Make sense?
Our attachment to life kind of goes away when we discover that EVERY thing is life, there's no such thing as death just the transformation of form. We are but particles of energy and energy is not created nor destroyed it just transforms it's expression. Hmmm . . .
. . . just my theory inspired by much experience, observation and clues given by others. Abraham (the non-physical consortium channeled through Esther Hicks) offers that physical death can be one's desire to re-emerge into life freshly or to express in the non-physical realm. I've wondered if the soul that was Bob Marley has re-emerged and what he's up to. Could it be we never truly die, we just transform form, like relationships?
MY DEMON. MY ANGEL.
We come together. We part company. But our presence in that person's life and their presence in ours never goes away. They become part of our beautiful soul ecology, even if the experience or their presence brought pain or dishonored you. The gift of your co-mingling is the wisdom you gained or the contrast of what you desire to have you desire and manifest another experience. Our apparent demons become our unlikely angels.
Like King Alobar in the novel "Jitterbug Perfume" going through extensive lengths to discover the secret of longevity or August Wilson's film character Troy in "Fences" in a duel with death, people fear it, avoid it and run away from it. Seems though the faster you run from death, aging, anything for that matter, it will chases you down until you get to see that it was all an illusion because there is only life and the transformation of it.
Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosever shall lose his life shall preserve it.
GIVE ME A REASON TO LIVE
I've noticed often, but not always, partners who have been together a long, long time will pass away shortly after their departed beloved. I've also read that many die shortly after they retire from their life's work. ("Just The Way You Are" is playing now....love that song.)
Realizing this, when my mother retired from forty-seven years of being an educator in the area of Life Skills for young people, I was focused on inspiring her to create a future that she was excited to live into.
The origins of this note was inspired by a dear si"star" who is part of our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook community. She messaged me that she was in the hospital in a life or death situation. Of course, I honor her choice to be here with us or to graduate to another realm, however I wanted to encourage her to focus on an exciting future that she could live into.
A FUTURE TO LIVE INTO
While being present is the key, I'm CLEAR on the necessity of having a future to live into. Having something you look forward to, something you're excited and passionate about that has you pop out of the bed each morning. Something that becomes Your Greatest Love Affair. "When you give up your dream, you die." says Nick, Alex's love interest in "Flashdance."
Yeah, like that.
Having a future to live into builds our WILL to live. That fire in our belly that keeps us in action and powering through. Every one of us, desires to feel that our existence matters and is necessary to someone or something. When that is missing, perhaps we get overly wrapped up in the propaganda and distractions of the world, believing their REAL. (shaking my head) We really believe the hype sometimes. It's "Just An Illusion" (by Imagination.)
SERVE + CONNECT
I'm CLEAR that when we have a purpose through service and connection to people and the beauty of this world THIS is what creates LONGEVITY or LIFE. It's not about avoiding or fearing death but to LIVE, really LIVE, with passion, with intimacy, with brazen honesty ('cuz that people pleasing, ego-stroking really doesn't attract the best that life has to offer for us).
If you're ill, focus on healing and loving on your Self as well as what will be your next adventure in expressing your purpose through service. If you haven't discovered your purpose, just serve, provide a solution to someone's problem and you'll figure it out. Don't be stingy with the goodies. And you've got a lot of goodies mama/man.
The Death Train that soul's have been hopping on lately I feel is actually a RE-BIRTHING of humanity. "Exiting Through The Gift Shop" to enter the front door of a Golden Age in this Aquarian Age. Perhaps by providing a mirror of death, we're being presented with an apparent contrast inspiring us to REALLY live.
We can cheat death, because death doesn't REALLY exist. It only exist in language as everything does (a Landmark Education distinction). While we slip in and out of realms, domains and galaxies, we are eternal.
Focus on contributing to others, serving others and adding value to others on such a level that you're missed when you choose to slip out of this party into another.
Thanks for reading. I appreciate you.
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Day 20 of 13/13 Moons
Do you know what time it is?
There's a time to be still.
There's a time to proceed.
There's a time to retreat.
Is your response at this time appropriate to what you desire in the depths of your heart?
Love. Money. Family. Health. Legacy.
What is the true motivation behind your lack of response at this time?
Time for Reflection? Needed Rest? Paralyzing Fear? Pure Laziness?
As one who's done a great deal of work on my Self as well as in the area of leadership, I really get that many of us can't fathom how powerful our presence is when we do choose to show up. We sign-up for courses, initiate projects, pay for coaches, receive invitations, etc.
If you have raised your hand and said, "Yes. I am down. I'm in. I desire to do this. I'm ready."
Then . . . you don't reply to the email, answer the call, respond to the text, show up to the appointment, etc. WTH?
Ok crazy, you've prayed, you've pleaded and asked for the good life, the upgrade, the breakthrough, you get it and then you . . .
You do nothing.
I remember a very close friend once said to me, "It's easy to be successful in life because the average person just bumbles through life in mediocrity so those of us who just do the bare minimum, the basics, we tend to stand out." What he said has stuck with me through the years. And I've seen that there is some truth to this.
Lack of response falls into one of three mindsets:
1. FEAR: you're afraid of saying "no," you're afraid you won't be able to . . . , etc. fear.
2. INVISIBILITY: feeling that your presence has no consequence, they won't miss me.
3. PASSIVE: the answer is really no, so "no response" is your response
We both know that none of these behaviors REALLY work if you're playing the game of greatness.
1. FEAR: The best things in life occur with a bit of risk and moving beyond our comfort zone.
2. INVISIBLE: Do you know what it took for you to be conceived, survive pregnancy, child birth, your infancy, childhood, teen years and you're still standing here as an adult? You're the product of a million miracles and escaped death a billion times. There's is no one on this planet that is unnecessary or insignificant. You are a winner in the truest since of the word. You won the blessing of life, you have something profound to offer, if you would just respond and show up!
3. PASSIVE: Ok, you're just being a lazy coward. Rude. Inconsiderate. You'll get yours. Trust.
Here's a bit of metaphysical truth: At the end of the day, your interaction isn't really with the individual you're having this experience with but Universal Law itself. Every action creates an equal or greater reaction. Your fear, your playing invisible and small, lack of clarity breeds more of the same in your life and most likely from people, experiences and areas of your life you don't want to have that show up.
Be generous, Be clear, Be courageous.
Why? Because wealth, abundance and prosperity is created through the dance of giving and receiving. Kind of like the act of sex, the friction of polarity creates life. Your response ignites possibility and opens up worlds and adventures to you that embody the desires of your heart.
Tell me "Yes." Tell me "No." Tell me now.
Isn't it time to stop BEing stingy, cowardly & vague. We're better than our lack of response.
Commit less. Then respond.
Today share this note and declare who, what you're going to respond to today.
Yep, I'm talking to you. So . . . respond.
I'm going to leave the comments open to see who is being generous, clear and courageous today. ;o)
Thanks for reading.
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Day 19 of 13/13 Moons
"Own your space.
Our first job in life as women is to get to know ourselves and a lot of times we spend our time pleasing, satisfying and looking out into the world to define who we are."
M I C H E L L E O B A M A
First Lady of The United States of America
I'm taking a quick break from the #21insights4nights to insert another #iAmHer360 feature. The timing is right as the Obama's prepare to leave the White House after eight years of service as Commander-In-Chief and First Lady.
# iAmHer360 speaks to seeing other women as yourself and the celebration of every way that any woman chooses to express herself. If you've missed any of them click this link for the playlist: #iAmHer360.
The first time I ever heard Michelle Obama speak in an interview, something stuck with me; that she got up every morning at four am to workout and to see to HER needs first before it was time to take care of everyone else. Being someone who rises before the sunrise myself, I was impressed and sensed a next level solidity to her that I respected. She also happens to remind me of my own mother . . . so there's that too.
In this feature, I share some my favorite of the first lady's many inspirational ideas over the years.
Think, Feel & Act Like A First Lady
M R S . O B A M A ' S G E M S
To Young Girls About Boys: Cute, Interesting & Otherwise
"There's no boy at this age that is cute enough or
interesting enough to stop you from getting your education.
If I had worried about who liked me and who was cute when I was your age
I wouldn't be married to the President of The United States."
. : .
. : .
On Enduring Insults & Slights
"All of this used to really get to me.
Eventually I realized that if I wanted to keep my sanity and not let others define me,
there was only one thing I could do and that was to have faith in God's plan for me.
I had to ignore all the noise and be true to myself and the rest would work itself out."
. : .
On Modeling What You Want
"If we want maturity, we have to be mature.
If we want a nation that's hopeful, we have to speak in hopeful terms.
We have to show love and empathy,
If we want smart leaders we have to be smart voters.
We cannot vote from a place of fear, but from a place of openness.
We have to model what we want."
. : .
On Your Challenges, Disadvantages & Disappointments
"Never view your challenges as a disadvantage,
this experience of overcoming is one of your
biggest advantages. You'll be equipped to deal with
further disappointments and discouragement.
You'll have the maturity and wisdom
to keep moving forward."
. : .
On Authenticity . . .
"There are no surprises, no tricks up our sleeve.
We are authentic, came in that way and will leave that way.
The office amplifies who you are. It doesn't change who you are, it reveals who you are.
I follow my own moral compass. That's the only thing I have to live up to."
. : .
On Being Complacent
"The work always continues. We're never done.
Never be complacent thinking you've arrived.
We've seen how quickly things can be taken away if we aren't vigilant,
if you don't know your history. What are you gonna do?
How are you going to be better?
What are you going to change in your family dynamic?
We can't afford to be ignorant or complacent.
Continue to do the work.
. : .
On Balance & Having It All
"Don't beat yourself up about not being able to have it all.
No one gets everything. You don't always get your way all the time.
You learn that when you're a child. It's about managing expectations.
You're living your life through phases. You're compromising for certain phases, then later you may have more of what you thought you wanted. If you're not having it all right now, you're not failing.
Take care of yourself so you'll live long enough to make it happen later.
. : .
On Mastering Your Schedule
"If I'm going to leave my house and leave my girls
I need to know how is this going to have an impact."
. : .
A Word To The Men
Be better at everything.
Fathers, who love your daughters and are providing a solid example,
that is the greatest gift the men in my life gave me.
I've never experienced abuse by the hands of any man in my life.
Be a better husband. Be part of your family's life.
Don't babysit your children. Be engaged.
Be a better employer. Diversify.
. : .
On Service & Happiness
"I left the practice of law and went into public service for selfish reasons.
It makes me happy and feel good every single day.
I wanted to wake up and be inspired to do something greater than myself.
That's what serving and giving means to so many.
Get out of the isolation and looking down at your phones.
That's not enough, you need people in your lives that you're connecting with and helping.
There's nothing better than knowing you're helping to change people's lives.
The haters and the doubters? None of that matters because
you're getting so much out of the work you're doing.
. : .
"Tips on bravery? I don't know if I ever view it as bravery.
I just viewed it as I'm not going to be taken advantage of.
I knew my value. And that goes back to knowing who you are.
As women and young girls, we have to invest that time
into getting to understanding and liking who we are.
But you've gotta work to get to that place and if you're going out into the world
as a professional not knowing who you are, don't know what you want and
you don't know how much you're worth then you have to be brave.
Then you have to count on the kindness and goodness of others to bestow it upon you."
. : .
On Living Without Apology
"I"m going work so hard that my actions speak and I don't have to say anything.
Let me live my life outloud so people can then see and judge for themselves.
Don't dial it back, don't dilute it. Don't apologize for it, it speaks for itself."
. : .
On Knowing Yourself & Owning Your Space.
"Stand inside yourself and own your space.
Our first job in life as women is to get to know ourselves
and a lot of times we spend our time pleasing, satisfying and
looking out into the world to define who we are.
It takes taking the time to know who you are to be able to deal
with the negative onslaught of the messages you're bound to get.
I came into this with a pretty clear sense of self.
And some of this comes with age, experience, being fortunate
enough to be raised by a loving strong, focused mother and father who loved me dearly.
So I fortunately came into this situation with a really clear sense of who I was,
It was easy to brush that stuff off because I know who I am."
Thanks for reading.
♡ ☆ ♀
Day 15 of 13/13 Moons
Full Moon in Cancer
21 Insights In 4 Nights
During the Winter Solstice I got quiet for four days and four nights and emerged with twenty-one insights; some were reminders, some were epiphanies, others were ideas.
Insight #6 . . .
It's been ten years since I received about ten boxes containing the first edition of SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES: Workin' Your Power & Magic. I was enchanted by a vision after spending a day with porn stars, strippers, video vixens and 50 cent on a music video over a decade ago. I was crystal clear that when transformed little girls become women who choose suitable mates they will raise children in healthy, loving households and we'll experience transformation in our communities, world, planet. This book project was my love letter to my daughters and yours. My protective stand for the children of the post-gangsta rap generation, seeing the misogyny as a red flag of more degeneration to come.
WHAT IS YOUR PASSIONATE CAUSE THAT YOU WOULD FIGHT FOR?
Although, I never had a sense of urgency to hurry and get this book out, I figured I would be promoting and sharing it with people for the rest of my life, while at the same time felt that somehow one day the concepts in this book would become irrelevant. It felt like with the interest in natural hair and natural beauty becoming more and more mainstream especially in the "African-American" community I'd be singing to the choir. I really felt the day would come that women and girls would get the memo that as "The Golden Goose Of The Universe," our innate power and magic supercedes the colonized, misogynized, superficial and exploited fragments of female we had become on display for all to see. I, you, we're not quite there yet, we're getting there though.
DID YOU KNOW YOU ARE THE GOLDEN GOOSE SIS?
Although many would repeat Dicken's mantra that this is the BEST of times and the WORST of times, there are planetary influences, that will trump a great deal of the degeneration and nonsense we've witnessed in this last era. So this book is even MORE RELEVANT now than ever, but I'm not at all worried because I can see a beautiful victory ahead.
DON'T BE STINGY WITH YOUR GOODIES.
In this book, I talk about being "stingy with your goodies." Well, my blood sister teases me that I haven't really done all I can to make sure that people can easily get this book into their hands by virtue of the fact I've seen a remixed boot-leg copy in Atlanta while doing makeup on a music video with Usher and R. Kelly (Yes, I know. Dont' judge. The work of healers are needed everywhere. Jesus taught us that.) and that I've seen it sold on Amazon for over $258. She had to make me see that it wasn't as much a compliment but that there was a feeling of scarcity for the book. There are only fifteen-hundred copies on the planet. Not a good thing. This is a message, not a piece of artwork. As an artist, I had to shift my mindset and go for the masses because this is about the generations to come. So the scarcity of the book is going to change. We've been chanting #blackgirlmagic and that #blackgirlsrock for a while now so . . . in honor of the ten-year anniversary:
I'm really looking forward to connecting with some of our readers as well as introducing this work to new readers.
DO YOU HAVE THIS BOOK? CLICK this link to connect with me.
DO YOU DESIRE TO HAVE THIS BOOK? CLICK this link to grab one or two or three . . .
What have you created, accomplished and built that needs to be commemorated and celebrated?
Thanks for reading.
Looking forward to meet you soon during this year of celebrating ten years of S & G!
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Day 13 of 13/13 Moon
21 Insights In 4 Nights
During the Winter Solstice I got quiet for four days and four nights and emerged with twenty-one insights; some were reminders, some were epiphanies, others were ideas.
Insight #5 . . .
I got a word over the holy day season that 2017 would be the year to be Ready For MAGIC & MIRACLES.
Just to be clear, for me magic is willed alchemy as oppose to miracles being divine blissings of grace. These are the Way of Manifestation for superwomen and goddesses i.e. empowered human beings. Superwomen in our culture are females who think, feel and act with a mind that anything is possible, while goddesses (small "g") are females who inspire life in everything they touch.
When I wrote SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES: Workin' Your Power & Magic Book One in 2005, I promised if you came forth to be the greatness that you are, you will have every desire of your heart on page 77.
That you would :
"...have the respect, affection and company of suitable men,
...experience peace, affinity and love with all people,
...be acknowledged for your contribution to your people,
...be abundant in resources and community,
...be vital and live a long life,
...and wield the magic and power of superwomen and goddesses."
From your mission to your mate, your money and everything in between, expect promises to be fulfilled this year.
SCHOOL TO HIGH SOCIETY
We've been in training, sometimes grueling, sometimes amusing and now graduation is upon us. School is out and our classmates have become a high society of real life superwomen, goddesses, and metaphysicians walking the Earth prepared and ready to work their power to manifest M & Ms (magic and miracles) this year and beyond.
WHO you desire to be?
HOW do you occupy your day?
WHAT are the material rewards of this lifestyle?
The last year, the last nine years, really all our lives we've been preparing for this moment. This year is our moment to BE, DO and HAVE. BE who we were born to be, to DO exactly as we've envisioned and to HAVE our hearts desire beyond the illusion. What an exciting adventure we've stepped into.
What will you accomplish this year?
What will you manifest?
FOCUS & CONSISTENCY IS KEY
Already on day 6 of this new year, the once passionate gym crowds are whittling down, like the first day of school excitement that has died down and now the REAL work of consistency and focus kick in. Applying that info and what you know with consistency is the KEY. We all know what to do, could write a book on it. Information is plentiful and free so we can keep things going for a period of time until - we hit a breakdown, feel lack of motivation or just plain not feel well, then return to our old habits which can be pretty strong if you didn't tend to them during the solstice.
So then what?
How will you get over that hump to remain in this game?
...the year where we're ready to show up for the magic and miracles? The only thing that could screw it all up - receiving all those promises fulfilled is, us.
YOU ARE INVINCIBLE
So you got to have a crew, a tribe, a circle that will keep you accountable, give you a structure and support to get you over the hump. Last year I said that I'd rather soar with a few instead of dragging a bunch. So I'm carefully assembling that community if you're ready to soar with us.
Still some woo-woo while less woo-woo than last year. This year we're focused even more on practicality and accountability for results of the magic and miracles that are abound for each one of us. There will be no forcing or attachment while at the same time being very scientific.
In community you are invincible because we won't allow you to be invisible and fail. "No burden is heavy when everyone lifts." We will be one nation under a groove. If and when you fall, we'll pick you up and keep it movin'.
And as for the expression of your GIFTS, TALENTS, ABILITIES...
Like cracker jacks, everyone has AT LEAST one gift, talent or ability that we can all benefit from.
Then there are some of us who have gifts, talents and abilities that if not shared will suffer until we share those gifts generously. On some level your inner oracle knows that you are being stingy, scared and/or out of integrity with why you came into this physical realm. So it's a reminder, sometimes not so gentle or friendly to Get. Off. Your. Arse.
2017: A Year Being Ready For Our M & Ms (Magic & Miracles)
The abundance of it.
The allowing of it.
The celebration of it.
The flow of it.
The goodness of it.
The knowing of it.
The manifesting of it.
The power of it.
The receiving of it.
The whirling of it.
Are you ready for your m & ms? Want to be held accountable? Be supported to get you the experience you desire in this life. Heart, Mind, Body, Spirit.
ready for m & ms.
REGISTER for this Sunday's FREE Workshop "Love. Beauty. Wealth. You Set The Standard."
If you're unable to attend at the appointed time, REGISTER STILL and let me know.
Thanks for reading.
Here we go!
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Day 9 of 13/13 Moons