Happy Akoma Day!
. . . a cultural alternative to Valentine's Day.
Akoma Week begins February 14 - 20.  
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This post contains three parts:
1. S A N K O F A: Go Back & Fetch It

2. The Science of Soulmating: A K O M A
Learn the beautiful symbology of this West African adinkra symbol which teaches
the sacred science of soulmating.

3.  I'd like to introduce you to my good friends Montsho & Nwasha Edu of The Akoma House Initiative who hold court on the context behind Valentine's Day, Akoma Day and the science of soulmating. 

 
Nya AKOMA = Take Heart

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In the Spirit of Superwomen & Goddesses, 

​♡ ☆ ♀
Ms. Akua Auset
Day 45 of 2/13 Moons 
Waxing Gibbous Moon

No matter how awesome or awful our childhood was, I would venture to say that each one of us has healing and wounds to tend to. Hurt and wounds interacting with the hurt and wounds of others create more hurt and wounds for all of those that come in contact with you intimately so it's up to each one of us to be responsible for our own Healing, Discernment and Boundaries. If we don't make the proper self-love and care choices for ourselves and our family it carries generational implications.
 
As a woman the more I mature, the more tools I have acquired to discern if the man that stands before me is a Protector, Provider, Adorer or a User, Abuser, Predator. It is a matter of life and death for our girls and sisters to learn the difference and choose properly. I'd like to offer a few resources and tools for you to explore. 

1. There's a personal series that I did several years ago on YouTube called: Letting Go Of Insecurity: 21-Day Experience. If you are currently dealing with a domestic violence situation or are healing from having experienced such, I am happy to share this course with you for a donation instead of the $199.95 that we normally have it available for. 

2. Is He Healthy? Chapter 5 of Man Leads . . . Woman Follows. Everyone Wins by Ro Elori Cutno. This chapter will give you a list of the fifteen things to look for in a male/man to see if he will be a suitable husband. For men it will give you a list of eight things to look for in a female/woman to see if she will be a suitable wife. 

3. SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES: Workin' Your Power & Magic Book by Akua Auset
    " Reading this book Superwomen & Goddesses is saving my life right now!"

Whew! Sharing daily notes on my personal culture of beauty "mostly daily" has been a challenge lately. Mama's been busy, productive and whirling all sort and form of power and magic offline.  

NEW MOON
The third New Moon of 2017 is tonight at 9:57 PM Central Standard Time in the sign of Aries and we're still in a Venus Retrograde. This is the "purrr"fect time to get clear on who we are and how we express love and beauty in our lives and in the world. This is an auspicious time to tap into your Divine Voice and declare your intention for manifestation for the next twenty-eight moon cycle.

ARIES = "I AM"
Aries energy is all about the expression of ''I AM" energy so beautifully exemplified by Diana Ross, Chaka Khan, Aretha Franklin. The freedom of being, doing, and having whatever the *%*# you desire and giving zero flips about what others think about it. On Planet Aries "Everything is possible." The true superwoman energy.

INVITATION: TONIGHT WITH ME
Take advantage of this profound opportunity to manifest M & Ms (magic and miracles) with a New Moon Ritual. This evening our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook Community will engage in a "Manifesting Magic & Miracles" SHIMMY CIRCLE at 9 PM Central.

In preparation for our session I'm going to give you a bit of a hook-up.

"NO BURDEN IS HEAVY WHEN EVERYONE LIFTS."
Since the beginning of 2017, I guide a secret community of women who are the rebels, mavericks, creators, and humanitarians of our society to manifest their goals and visions in the area of beauty, health . . . LIFE! Ever wish someone would ask you about that goal you made to make sure you got it done? Well, we do that with a lot of other goodies, like impromptu oracle readings, monthly beauty dossiers, etc.

So, we're on the tail-end of a month-long "Loving My Beautiful Bodacious Body" series in which members have gotten twelve out of sixteen tutorials about how to integrate beauty movement rituals in their day-to-day. Moving your body takes energy and produces energy. Energy begets energy. If you've had stagnation in your cash, love and creativity flow then perhaps it's time to "Shake Your Honey Pot" beautiful. From your pocketbook (both of them) to your magnetism (Ms. Honey Pot drawin' in those bees) this tutorial, if done as intended will attract cash your way and lubricate your ability to manifest the desires of your heart.
​100% Guarantee.

Let's put it to the test.
This North African dance move commonly referred to as  "Belly Dance" is beneficial for your "lady parts," "yoniverse," "celestial garden" and every term that refers to your female reproductive system. With regular (a day or two a week) belly dancing you'll not only ease discomfort and the length of days on your menstrual "moon" time, but also amplify your magnetism. 

How do you say "bees to honey?" Yup! You'll be stirring up that feminine sweetness within. 
Make sure to hydrate after your session because if you do it right, you will break a bit of a sweat.  This is a private video. The password is: shimmy
​IN joy!

​So come on and work that power and magic like the Child of Possibility, Aries. Don't be stingy with the SHINE. The Universe and Heavens are ours. What are you manifesting in this moon cycle?
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Thank you for reading. If you feel generous, SHARE.

​♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 30 of 2/12 Moons 
Waning Crescent

It's been a very busy and productive week over here at the A U S E T headquarters but I had to stop to address a question that was posted in our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook Community. It is as follows . . . 

BRENDA: Ask. 

AKUA: I'm not sure I've reached mastery, but I do know it's a dance. Tango dancing is a great illustration of this concept. Having the Spirit of vulnerability and surrender = femininity. Femininity calls forth the masculine in a masculine man, which is more rare than you would think.

SAMANTHA: I really don't understand what this means. What exactly is the spirit of vulnerability?

I have a feeling that Lynn and Samantha's questions are questions that many, many, many women have. They are great questions, important questions. The world and our culture doesn't seem to be a safe place for the Spirit of vulnerability to be expressed. Just months from the largest women's march in history, we're in a climate where the passing patriarchal era of consciousness is bumping heads with a more feminine and integrated era of consciousness. Our grandmothers, mothers, and daughters have very different experiences in the dance of the feminine/masculine dynamic; within themselves first, let alone interaction with their male counterparts. With slogans like, "The Future Is Female." we've got to be careful not to just replace male-expressed supremacy with a semblance of the same supremacy by females, because it still doesn't represent integration or balance. That's a whole 'nother topic so let's continue with this one.

When I think of vulnerability I think of the most magnetic and endearing beings on the planet: babies. Baby mammals of all kinds. My mother's heart-warming and beloved furry baby i.e. dog Lola for instance has no shame in how she expresses her desire for attention, affection, or any need she may have. She will roll over on her back with legs WIDE open, belly exposed and look you dead in your eye waiting to be rubbed. There's not one bit of coyness or passive-aggressiveness. She is clear about what she wants from you. It makes sense that people create deep connection, intimacy and loyalty with their pets.

Southern California, home of the oh-so-isolating Hollywood, a not so vulnerable-friendly town is also a big dog town. When I lived in Venice Beach, California, I'm pretty certain one out of every three people had a furry baby. 

When I think of vulnerability, I think of children who are quick to display their feelings, ask for what they desire up front and to quickly move on from hurt once the moment is over. Could it be that those who are the most "susceptible to harm" are the most endearing? Small, delicate, fragile, open. Look at the puppy and kitten sleeping above. Anything could happen to them and yet they sleep so peacefully. Vulnerable is defined as: "susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm." 

When we interface with another in relationship we are susceptible to physical, emotional, financial, etc. attack, harm, rejection and ruin. Scary stuff for most of us. 

I recently took an IQ test and noticed that a great deal of the questions had to do with seeing patterns. I've recognized a bit of a pattern with how easy it is for certain sun/moon signs to be vulnerable while others have a very difficult time with it. 

Quadraplicities are groups of four by mode of zodiac influence when one feels stimuli or somehow put under tension. It's how they get their elemental (emotional, physical, mental, spiritual) needs satisfied. Those groups are as follows: 

Fixed
Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius, Taurus
resistant, unchanging, steadfast, determined, self-reliant, stubborn, passive-aggressive. 

​Cardinal
Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn 
initiator, enterprise, active, quick, ambitious, driven, domineering, sets the tone, dynamic

Mutable 
Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces
adaptable, assimilating, go with the flow, chameleon, flexibility, resourceful, diplomatic 
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Each characteristic can be beneficial as well as self-defeating depending upon how the mode is implemented or expressed. It would take a professor of social work born under the sign of Scorpio to teach on the topic "The POWER of Vulnerability," in her famous TED talk. Born 18 November, Brene Brown became a household name through her alliance with Oprah on the subject of vulnerability. Scorpio, the most unlikely to be vulnerable. It's funny how we teach what we seek to master, as the way of the fixed Scorpio is not that of being vulnerable but of being in control, unreceptive and resistant. 

So, what is the answer to Lynn's question of "how to be soft while fierce at the same time?"
First things first, any and everyone doesn't deserve your vulnerability. It's a casting pearls before swine type of thing. We wouldn't leave our precious children or puppies around anyone who's questionable. Once you've determined that it's a safe environment, open yourself up to the dance of giving and receiving. A dance that ignites a spark, connection and intimacy that creates something electric. Give yourself over to an openness and honesty that is bigger than your learned political, manipulative agenda - be unrefined, like a child before it learns to alter his/her essential Self to get a predetermined outcome.
Open your heart, expose your belly, be wide open and willing to be
susceptible to the thing that you fear.
Be vulnerable. 

HOW ARE YOU GOING TO BE VULNERABLE TODAY?

Thank you for reading. If you feel generous, SHARE.

​♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 20 of 2/12 Moons 
Waning Gibbous

Someone said that there are Seven Wonders Of The World, well me and Stevie (Wonder that is who sang "Ebony Eyes") don't agree. Every single baby girl is born a "Wonder Of The World" . . . until the world tells her otherwise.  

Today International Women's Day is observed around the world. Over a hundred years ago, it began as an outcry for women being treated like second-class citizens. The mission of this observance is defined as "the struggle for women's rights."

I believe that my mouth speaks things into existence so perhaps it's time to let go of "The Struggle" for anything. We see a hundred years later from the inception, struggling for anything leads to more struggle. It just doesn't work metaphysically speaking. I say that we speak of and into the Victory that this world works for EVERYone. And that work begins in our hearts, our consciousness and then shows up in our own relationships and households.

My feeling is that babies, girls or boys, aren't born with a drive to oppress, exploit and abuse. "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation." Mothers have a responsibility to raise sons that honor, protect and provide for women and children.

The day will come that women under, over and "inner"stand that allowing your sons to take on oppressive, exploitive, abusive and supremacist ideologies based on differences, that those same sons will grow to oppress, exploit, abuse and stand over in superiority to you and your daughters. It's time for women once and for all to be concerned not only with the "me" but with the "we"; no matter how different your sister looks, prays and expresses her feminine power. It's always been about the "we."  When can take clues from nature in that when we share energetic space our menstrual rhythm syncs with each other. 

The boys and men are watching us.
We teach our men and sons how to treat us as they are watching how our relationships with each other women express and unfold. So:

Mothers (that includes Aunties because they're all our daughters) cultivate and encourage the beauty, magic, power and majesty of your daughters.

Daughters (and nieces because they're all our mothers) honor, respect and give tribute to your mothers, for without her you wouldn't BE.

Sisters, desire more for your sister than you would desire for yourself because one day you may need her to pull you up or along. 

So I'll say again, it's up to us to tap into our divine and feminine power because after all we birthed those that oppress us. We see that when we teach our sons to oppress, exploit and abuse others based on differences, we cultivate a world in which you yourself are oppressed, exploited and abused. Your zenophobic seeds will harvest and that chicken will come home to roost.

If we desire first-class treatment, it begins with how we treat ourselves, our si"stars" and all those souls who come to this planet that happen to be different from us. 

I'm very optimistic we are upon a Golden Age of Consciousnes and the circle of huemanity will again become complete. It's simple. The solution is at hand. We struggle no more. We now flow. 

Happy International Women's Day to my fellow Wonders of The World.

Please SHARE this message. Please LIVE this message. 
Thank you for reading. 

​♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 11 of 2/12 Moons 
Waxing Gibbous

Normally I speak of possibility and maintain a worldview of "YES."  My daily commitment is to focus on gratitude, appreciation, abundance and plenty of this life. Based on what I have observed in my time in this physical realm, I find a few things worrisome to the ultimate vision that this world works for "every One." I can't help but to perceive an agenda underneath the propaganda in which we are bombarded with. The last few days I have been turning the following questions over in my head:

What if .  .  .
The resources on planet Earth were not enough to sustain the entire "consuming" population?

What if . . . 
It was determined that the Earth's "consuming" population needed to be reduced so that its resources would not be depleted?

​What if . . . 
The dominating global superpower concocted a plan to reduce the "consuming" population of the Earth?

How would that be determined?
What would be the determining factors for one's annihilation or survival in this effort?
Who would be the most favorable individuals to remain on Planet Earth?
Who would be the least desirable individuals to remain on Planet Earth?

Have you ever asked yourself:

"Why am I valuable?" 

"Do I add value?"

"What do I produce?"

"Does my existence add or take away from the lives of others?"

"Am I primarily a producer or a consumer?"

"Am I primarily a giver or taker?"

Yes, it's the era of all sort and form of slayage and fleekdom, but at the end of the day are you necessary? 

Thank you for reading.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 9 of 2/12 Moons 
Waxing Gibbous

How many relationships have been destroyed or never initiated by the lack of communication?
Parents? Sisters? Brothers? Children? Girlfriends? Boyfriends? Mates? Mentors? Bosses? Employees? Business Partners?

Communication is the gateway to all of the most beautiful things in life. We occupy our time on enhancing our looks, our homes, our education, our financial picture but if you don't know how to communicate with people one-on-one, all those things are pretty meaningless because nobody will want to be around ["yo' *ss"]. LOL. (I literally laughed out loud.)

LOVE DORSEY
Which brings me to my next statement: LOVE DORSEY.
She's everything I never wanted to be: loud, hood, potty mouth.
Well? I kinda love her because she speaks the truth and I respect that. 

Being someone who is from Kentucky, raised on the southside of Chicago as well as the suburbs and lived all over Los Angeles as an adult, I have a bit of a love affair with the "hood." Some of my favorite aunties have the heart of "Cookie," brotha friends that have the enterprising spirit of Jay-Z and then some are actual real-life superstars. The thing I love the most about the "hood" is the REALNESS: unrefined, unvarnished, RAW.  
Yup! I like a little hood with my boujee boho. 

I discovered this young woman on Facebook. Someone posted a video about leveling up your friendships which when I first watched it had about a 200K views and at the time of writing this it's over a million views. So apparently the si"star" resonates with many of us. 

Last night I listened to an hour-long "rant" about COMMUNICATION entitled "Majority of conflicts are caused by . . ." [I'm not able to link the original video so search for her on Facebook]. She has a Youtube channel but this one isn't there.]

She goes on to talk about key elements in conflicts caused by poor communication with friends, mates, children and at work.

Key Points:

• Don't ASSume someone knows what you're saying, thinking, doing, etc. 
• ASSuming someone already knows what you want, who you are, etc.
• Be PRESENT and LISTEN instead of waiting to say what you have to say
• LISTEN for understanding
• SPEAK to be understood
• Don't ASSume people know when you're upset
• Don't ASSume people are thinking about what you have to do
• "Open Your Brain. Slow Your Thoughts. Then Communicate."
• ASK QUESTIONS and Seek to understand before things pile up
• DISCUSS things in private, one-on-one.
• DEAL with children at their age level
• PAY ATTENTION to your children. They are communicating even if they don't speak.
• Don't offend people you need in your life. 
• Be blunt and get to the bottom of it. 
• LEARN about your self and get in touch with your feelings.

Brilliant. Right?

A closed mouth doesn't get fed.
Very few people can actually read your mind.
Just learn yourself, speak your truth with your heart, seek to be understood while you seek to understand.

My friend Nadia Khalil and one of our master teachers on the 2012: Love & Beauty Journey reminds us that Love is Truth. When you speak and live in truth love is present and possible. Yes that can be scary when you are attached to people, situations, etc. That brings us to another topic: VULNERABILITY. The freedom to be, express, live with "Zero Fs." Very much like the freedom of children.

Communicating what's truth for you with vulnerability is what creates intimacy and connection. There's no way around it. It just resonates. 

So stop being fake. Stop ASSuming. Because assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME. 
Just Ask. Tell. Request.

Thanks for reading. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 27 of 1/12 Moons 
Waning Crescent

IN THE WOMB
​As hueman beings, we developed and formed in our mother's "waters" so returning to the waters daily to cleanse and restore is a powerful ritual that leaves you feeling reborn every time. There's an actual scientific process that occurs when you immerse yourself in water. During the day being exposed to positive ions through contact with EMFs (electromagnetic frequency) like computers, wi-fi, electronics we build up positive ions and once immersed in water those ions are neutralized. 

BATHED IN LOVE
You can take the restorative practice of bathing a step further by imbuing your bathing water with intention. You can keep it as simple as you'd like or go full board. The New Moon and Full Moon phase of the moon makes this ritual even more effective.

​BASIC LOVE BATH RITUAL
You'll need:

A BATHTUB
SAGE WAND or DRAGON'S BLOOD RESIN

​BODY SCRUB 
sugar, salt, or pre-made

WATER 
warm and filtered (get a shower filter and fill your tub with the shower head.
It's softening to the skin.)
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SALT
coarse sea salt (also softening to the skin)
be careful if you have open wounds or irritated skin, it will burn
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CRYSTALS: ROSE QUARTZ, RHODONITE, QUARTZ
(one or all)

ESSENTIAL OILS
Rose, Geranium, Ylang Ylang, Jasmine
(one or all)

BODY OIL, BUTTER, BALM, LOTION
Holy Butter™

  
​What was your mother or father's greatest advice they ever gave you?

Mine?
"Just be yourself."
 
I first heard, "People prefer the devil they know over the angel they don't." on the show "Touched By An Angel" a bunch of years ago.

That quote is designed to speak of our resistance to change even if that change would represent something beneficial to us.  This quote popped into my head this  morning in regard to this topic - Just Be Yourself. We've seen clearly in our political climate that a great deal of people would rather deal with a "flawed" human being that was clear about who they are, plain and simple than the vague and untrustworthy.

It was third grade and I was uncomfortable in my new class. My mother said: "Just be yourself."​
At such a young age, I didn't have a clue about what she meant or who I was. Decades later, it's the most brilliant advice I've ever received. 

If we desire RESPECT, LOVE, AFFINITY with others we must be TRUE to ourselves.
There can be no respect, love or real affinity without us presenting our raw, unfiltered, true selves (over time, not in one sitting). After all, respect, love and affinity are developed from TRUTH. Without truth there is no integrity, nothing to stand on. Truth doesn't mean you have to be mean or unkind, it just means that you honor who you are, what you require and desire. Even if you experience kick-back from others, they will subconsciously admire, feel safe with and desire your presence in their lives because you feel SOLID - you have integrity.

People pleasers feel warm and fuzzy serving a purpose in the hospitality industry but in real life, in real one-on-one connections TRUTH is the glue, TRUTH is the magnet, TRUTH is the flow, the rhythm, TRUTH is home. 

How can you FEEL someone or something if the truth of them/it isn't there? They are just saying and doing what they think you want to hear and do. Even though we may enjoy the experience, in the background, in our heart, something will just not resonate .  .  . because we sense something's not quite right, or true.

If you're an *sshole, be an *sshole.
If you don't like something, say so.
If you don't want to do something, you don't have to do it.
Speak with kindness, yet clear, concise and straightforward. 
We tend to feel secure when we know EXACTLY what is what, while ambiguity makes us feel uncertain and insecure. 

If you're playing nicey-nice, being a doormat, a people pleaser, a brown-noser, a politician, you're being an imposter, you're living a lie and no one is loyal, would die for or would knowingly dedicate their life to a liar.

I had some tough times in third grade and I ultimately had to neutralize some bullies that teased and taunted me. When this nice, pretty little girl showed her other side in an after-school fight, it was all smiles and respect from that moment on.  

Take the time to get to know who you are, what you like and don't like, what you require and desire. Be unapologetically you, then and only then will you find your true tribe, your true fans and it will be worth all those that took offense because you honored your truth and self first.

Yes, we may complain, protest, kick and scream all the way but we stick with the "devil" that we KNOW.

Thanks for reading. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 4 of 1/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent  

For years I've said that I'm the safest woman for your husband to be around because if I know that a man is in a relationship or married I'm NOT interested. Mainly, because I need to be the priority and I'm clear that I have no desire to share a mate. I know many are involved in polygamous, open, polyamorous relationships and such but at the end of the day . . . not interested. 

True story . . .
When a man who finds you on Facebook says:

Man: "Akua you may remember me from last night. This world is so small as it appears we are connected by associations and friends. I hope you and your mom made it home safely."

Akua: "Yes. I remember you. You found me. Thank you for that . We did. Thank you for taking care of my mom."

After a bit of casual back and forth . . .

Man: xxx-xxx-xxxx best between 7-4

There are so many things I take issue with this in addition to meanwhile I've expressed no interest in him. "best between 7 to 4?"

Is that pm to am, or am to pm?
Those are odd hours. My intuition tells me it's fishy. 
So I Google him to find that he's been married for 19 years. 
Meanwhile, I'm friends with his daughter on Facebook.
So I respond . . .

Akua: "Not sure why I am calling. Aren't you married? 7 am to 4 pm? or 7 pm to 4 am? tisk tisk shame on you."

. . . BUT HE'S A SUPERSTAR
Years ago one of my dear divorced friends was being heavily pursued by a very married A-list celebrity. She was having a bit of a dilemma because this man is a very desirable superstar.  I encouraged her saying: "If you ever want to be happily married to YOUR guy, don't even think about this. There will be a price to pay." As far as I know she didn't and she has been happily married to her best friend for years now. Do until others as you would have them do unto you.

WHAT IS FOR YOU, IS FOR YOU
New-thought author and founder of Hay House, Louise Hay has a bit to say about being dishonest as well as stealing. "Whatever you give out in life comes back to you, always. And if you take from life, it will take from you. It is that simple." She says it's like saying to the Universe: "I don't really deserve the good in my life, I have to sneak around and take it." 
 
CLEAR, CLEAN, FEARLESS
Sometimes we attract these experiences to give us an opportunity to exhibit integrity and clear, fearless communication. Social media and the internet can be a beautiful place for connection as well as a place where serial creeps lurk to find a way into your life. Listen to your intuition, be fearless and clear in your communication. At the end of the day, it's our responsibility to keep things clean, honest and honorable. Sure it doesn't seem fair because it "takes two to tango" but if women will be the Maatian compass of their queendoms, then there will be integrity, order and balance in our relationships, community. And we will attract what is ours by divine consciousness. Be clear, honest and honorable and you will attract what is for you and only for you.

OPEN, POLYGAMOUS, POLYAMOROUS, ETC.
I'm aware that many people intentionally participate in open relationships, polygamy, polyamory, etc. Yet there are still honorable modes of connecting with potential mates. In everything there must be order or there will be chaos.

Most men in relationships are honest and honorable and not lurking around on social media to engage with you. More often than not, men will do the right thing even if they feel an attraction to someone other than their beloved/beloveds. It's natural and normal to feel attraction to more than one person in your lifetime. Human beings are not naturally monogamous (mating once in a lifetime), so there's that. Women are the guides of society. Being magnetic, where we go, men follow. Let's not abuse our power. If we will be a stand for keeping things clean, honest and honorable in interactions with men who are in committed relationships, there's less of an opportunity for things get to the point-of-no-return.

So today, contemplate the question:
"Are you husband/boyfriend safe?"

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 23 of 13/13 Moons 
Waning Crescent

The DEATH Train 
We can't even pretend not to notice all the death around us in the world. It's like there's a big party happening in another realm and people are quickly making their exit to get there. 

As a little girl, my relationship with death was knowing that when people died they would be buried underground in a casket. What a scary thought in my young mind. Surely nothing I'd have to deal with anytime soon.  But it created an uncomfortable feeling about dying until recently . . .

DEATH? NAH
The idea of death isn't what it used to be to me as a young girl, it's nothing to run from or be afraid of when you see life metaphysically; that we are co-creators of our experience here and "there" and that we have freewill to power that experience. I'm not leaving this physical realm until I choose to. (Yup. You did indeed hear my "black" woman sass.) When I hear that someone has "died," if they were close to me or influential in my life, it's more that I will miss their physical presence in this Earth realm. 

I don't see it as some tragic thing unless it was through tragic or painful means that they left this realm. On some level I believe that we approve the experiences that we have because perhaps the soul, the God force within desires to experience the human contrast from it's omniscient, omnipotent, omnipresent being of nothingness. Make sense?

Our attachment to life kind of goes away when we discover that EVERY thing is life, there's no such thing as death just the transformation of form. We are but particles of energy and energy is not created nor destroyed it just transforms it's expression. Hmmm . . .

. . . just my theory inspired by much experience, observation and clues given by others. Abraham (the non-physical consortium channeled through Esther Hicks) offers that physical death can be one's desire to re-emerge into life freshly or to express in the non-physical realm. I've wondered if the soul that was Bob Marley has re-emerged and what he's up to. Could it be we never truly die, we just transform form, like relationships?

MY DEMON. MY ANGEL.
We come together. We part company. But our presence in that person's life and their presence in ours never goes away. They become part of our beautiful soul ecology, even if the experience or their presence brought pain or dishonored you. The gift of your co-mingling is the wisdom you gained or the contrast of what you desire to have you desire and manifest another experience. Our apparent demons become our unlikely angels. 

Like King Alobar in the novel "Jitterbug Perfume" going through extensive lengths to discover the secret of longevity or August Wilson's film character Troy in "Fences" in a duel with death, people fear it, avoid it and run away from it. Seems though the faster you run from death, aging, anything for that matter, it will chases you down until you get to see that it was all an illusion because there is only life and the transformation of it.

Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosever shall lose his life shall preserve it. 
Luke: 17:33

GIVE ME A REASON TO LIVE
I've noticed often, but not always, partners who have been together a long, long time will pass away shortly after their departed beloved. I've also read that many die shortly after they retire from their life's work. ("Just The Way You Are" is playing now....love that song.)

Realizing this, when my mother retired from forty-seven years of being an educator in the area of Life Skills for young people, I was focused on inspiring her to create a future that she was excited to live into. 

The origins of this note was inspired by a dear si"star" who is part of our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES Facebook community. She messaged me that she was in the hospital in a life or death situation.  Of course, I honor her choice to be here with us or to graduate to another realm, however I wanted to encourage her to focus on an exciting future that she could live into. 

A FUTURE TO LIVE INTO
While being present is the key, I'm CLEAR on the necessity of having a future to live into. Having something you look forward to, something you're excited and passionate about that has you pop out of the bed each morning. Something that becomes Your Greatest Love Affair.  "When you give up your dream, you die." says Nick, Alex's love interest in "Flashdance."  
Yeah, like that. 

Having a future to live into builds our WILL to live. That fire in our belly that keeps us in action and powering through. Every one of us, desires to feel that our existence matters and is necessary to someone or something. When that is missing, perhaps we get overly wrapped up in the propaganda and distractions of the world, believing their REAL. (shaking my head) We really believe the hype sometimes.  It's "Just An Illusion" (by Imagination.) 

SERVE + CONNECT
I'm CLEAR that when we have a purpose through service and connection to people and the beauty of this world THIS is what creates LONGEVITY or LIFE. It's not about avoiding or fearing death but to LIVE, really LIVE, with passion, with intimacy, with brazen honesty ('cuz that people pleasing, ego-stroking really doesn't attract the best that life has to offer for us).

If you're ill, focus on healing and loving on your Self as well as what will be your next adventure in expressing your purpose through service. If you haven't discovered your purpose, just serve, provide a solution to someone's problem and you'll figure it out. Don't be stingy with the goodies. And you've got a lot of goodies mama/man. 

The Death Train that soul's have been hopping on lately I feel is actually a RE-BIRTHING of humanity. "Exiting Through The Gift Shop" to enter the front door of a Golden Age in this Aquarian Age.  Perhaps by providing a mirror of death, we're being presented with an apparent contrast inspiring us to REALLY live. 

We can cheat death, because death doesn't REALLY exist. It only exist in language as everything does (a Landmark Education distinction). While we slip in and out of realms, domains and galaxies, we are eternal.

Focus on contributing to others, serving others and adding value to others on such a level that you're missed when you choose to slip out of this party into another.

Thanks for reading. I appreciate you. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 20 of 13/13 Moons 
Waning Gibbous
  

Do you know what time it is?

There's a time to be still. 
There's a time to proceed.
There's a time to retreat. 

Is your response at this time appropriate to what you desire in the depths of your heart?
Love. Money. Family. Health. Legacy.

What is the true motivation behind your lack of response at this time?
Time for Reflection?  Needed Rest?  Paralyzing Fear?  Pure Laziness?

As one who's done a great deal of work on my Self as well as in the area of leadership, I really get that many of us can't fathom how powerful our presence is when we do choose to show up. We sign-up for courses, initiate projects, pay for coaches, receive invitations, etc. 

If you have raised your hand and said, "Yes. I am down. I'm in. I desire to do this. I'm ready."
Then . . . you don't reply to the email, answer the call, respond to the text, show up to the appointment, etc. WTH?

Ok crazy, you've prayed, you've pleaded and asked for the good life, the upgrade, the breakthrough, you get it and then you  . . .
Don't respond.
You do nothing. 

I remember a very close friend once said to me, "It's easy to be successful in life because the average person just bumbles through life in mediocrity so those of us who just do the bare minimum, the basics, we tend to stand out."  What he said has stuck with me through the years. And I've seen that there is some truth to this. 

Lack of response falls into one of three mindsets:
1.  FEAR: you're afraid of saying "no," you're afraid you won't be able to . . . , etc. fear. 
2. INVISIBILITY: feeling that your presence has no consequence, they won't miss me.
3. PASSIVE: the answer is really no, so "no response" is your response

We both know that none of these behaviors REALLY work if you're playing the game of greatness. 

1.  FEAR: The best things in life occur with a bit of risk and moving beyond our comfort zone.

2. INVISIBLE: Do you know what it took for you to be conceived, survive pregnancy, child birth, your infancy, childhood, teen years and you're still standing here as an adult? You're the product of a million miracles and escaped death a billion times. There's is no one on this planet that is unnecessary or insignificant. You are a winner in the truest since of the word. You won the blessing of life, you have something profound to offer, if you would just respond and show up!

3. PASSIVE: Ok, you're just being a lazy coward. Rude. Inconsiderate. You'll get yours. Trust.

Here's a bit of metaphysical truth: At the end of the day, your interaction isn't really with the individual you're having this experience with but Universal Law itself. Every action creates an equal or greater reaction. Your fear, your playing invisible and small, lack of clarity breeds more of the same in your life and most likely from people, experiences and areas of your life you don't want to have that show up. 

Be generous, Be clear, Be courageous. 
Why? Because wealth, abundance and prosperity is created through the dance of giving and receiving. Kind of like the act of sex, the friction of polarity creates life. Your response ignites possibility and opens up worlds and adventures to you that embody the desires of your heart.
Tell me "Yes." Tell me "No." Tell me now.

Isn't it time to stop BEing stingy, cowardly & vague. We're better than our lack of response.
Commit less. Then respond.

Today share this note and declare who, what you're going to respond to today.
Yep, I'm talking to you. So . . . respond.
I'm going to leave the comments open to see who is being generous, clear and courageous today. ;o)

Thanks for reading. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 19 of 13/13 Moons 
Waning Gibbous
 



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I'm taking a quick break from the #21insights4nights to insert another #iAmHer360 feature. The timing is right as the Obama's prepare to leave the White House after eight years of service as Commander-In-Chief and First Lady.
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​# iAmHer360 speaks to seeing other women as yourself and the celebration of every way that any woman chooses to express herself.  If you've missed any of them click this link for the playlist: #iAmHer360.

The first time I ever heard Michelle Obama speak in an interview, something stuck with me; that she got up every morning at four am to workout and to see to HER needs first before it was time to take care of everyone else. Being someone who rises before the sunrise myself, I was impressed and sensed a next level solidity to her that I respected. She also happens to remind me of my own mother . . . so there's that too.

In this feature, I share some my favorite of the first lady's many inspirational ideas over the years.

Think, Feel & Act Like A First Lady

M  R  S .     O  B  A  M  A '  S     G  E  M   S 
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To Young Girls About Boys: Cute, Interesting & Otherwise
"There's no boy at this age that is cute enough or
interesting enough to stop you from getting your education.
If I had worried about who liked me and who was cute when I was your age
I wouldn't be married to the President of The United States." 

. : .
"Words matter." 
. : .

On Enduring Insults & Slights
"All of this used to really get to me.
Eventually I realized that if I wanted to keep my sanity and not let others define me,
there was only one thing I could do and that was to have faith in God's plan for me.
I had to ignore all the noise and be true to myself and the rest would work itself out." 

. : .
On Modeling What You Want
"If we want maturity, we have to be mature.
If we want a nation that's hopeful, we have to speak in hopeful terms.
We have to show love and empathy,
If we want smart leaders we have to be smart voters.
We cannot vote from a place of fear, but from a place of openness.
We have to model what we want."

. : .
On Your Challenges, Disadvantages & Disappointments
"Never view your challenges as a disadvantage,
this experience of overcoming is one of your
biggest advantages. You'll be equipped to deal with
further disappointments and discouragement.
You'll have the maturity and wisdom
to keep moving forward." 

. : .
On Authenticity . . .
"There are no surprises, no tricks up our sleeve.
We are authentic, came in that way and will leave that way.
The office amplifies who you are. It doesn't change who you are, it reveals who you are.
I follow my own moral compass. That's the only thing I have to live up to."

. : .
On Being Complacent
"The work always continues. We're never done.
Never be complacent thinking you've arrived.
We've seen how quickly things can be taken away if we aren't vigilant,
if you don't know your history. What are you gonna do?
How are you going to be better?
What are you going to change in your family dynamic?
We can't afford to be ignorant or complacent. 
Continue to do the work. 
 
. : .
On Balance & Having It All
"Don't beat yourself up about not being able to have it all. 
No one gets everything. You don't always get your way all the time. 
You learn that when you're a child. It's about managing expectations.
You're living your life through phases. You're compromising for certain phases, then later you may have more of what you thought you wanted. If you're not having it all right now, you're not failing.
Take care of yourself so you'll live long enough to make it happen later. 

. : .

On Mastering Your Schedule
"If I'm going to leave my house and leave my girls
I need to know how is this going to have an impact."

. : .

A Word To The Men
"Be better.
Be better at everything. 
Fathers, who love your daughters and are providing a solid example,
that is the greatest gift the men in my life gave me. 
I've never experienced abuse by the hands of any man in my life.

Be a better husband. Be part of your family's life. 
Don't babysit your children. Be engaged.

Be a better employer. Diversify.

. : .
On Service & Happiness
"I left the practice of law and went into public service for selfish reasons.
It makes me happy and feel good every single day. 
​I wanted to wake up and be inspired to do something greater than myself. 
That's what serving and giving means to so many.
Get out of the isolation and looking down at your phones. 
That's not enough, you need people in your lives that you're connecting with and helping. 
There's nothing better than knowing you're helping to change people's lives.
The haters and the doubters?  None of that matters because
you're getting so much out of the work you're doing. 

. : .
On Bravery
"Tips on bravery? I don't know if I ever view it as bravery. 
I just viewed it as I'm not going to be taken advantage of.
I knew my value. And that goes back to knowing who you are. 
As women and young girls, we have to invest that time
into getting to understanding and liking who we are. 
But you've gotta work to get to that place and if you're going out into the world
as a professional not knowing who you are, don't know what you want and 
you don't know how much you're worth then you have to be brave.
Then you have to count on the kindness and goodness of others to bestow it upon you." 

. : .
On Living Without Apology
"I"m going work so hard that my actions speak and I don't have to say anything. 
Let me live my life outloud so people can then see and judge for themselves.
Don't dial it back, don't dilute it. Don't apologize for it, it speaks for itself." 

. : .
On Knowing Yourself & Owning Your Space. 
"Stand inside yourself and own your space.
Our first job in life as women is to get to know ourselves 
and a lot of times we spend our time pleasing, satisfying and 
looking out into the world to define who we are. 

It takes taking the time to know who you are to be able to deal 
with the negative onslaught of the messages you're bound to get. 
I came into this with a pretty clear sense of self. 
And some of this comes with age, experience, being fortunate 
enough to be raised by a loving strong, focused mother and father who loved me dearly.
So I fortunately came into this situation with a really clear sense of who I was, 
It was easy to brush that stuff off because I know who I am." 
​

Ever feel like that gold you be droppin' is going over their heads?
No shade but . . .
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"Do not give what is holy to dogs,
and do not throw pearls before swine,
lest they trample them under their feet,
                 and turn and tear you to pieces."                
Matthew 7 : 6

In Love, In Work, In Financial Matters, etc. 

Speaking of pearls, did you know the most expensive i.e. valuable piece of jewelry in the world is a 55 million dollar necklace by Mouawad Jewelry. It's an "internally flawless diamond."

SPARE SOME CHANGE?
So you know that apparently homeless guy in the subway asking for change? What do you think would happen if you offered this necklace to him? Do you think he would appreciate the value of the diamond or find it useful in his predicament? Do you think he would have the knowledge to even understand how this piece of jewelry could completely alter his reality, as well as those whose lives he could touch? Most likely and sadly . . .  not.

Still hypothetically speaking, his considerations are most likely focused on survival and would question why on Earth you were offering him a necklace when all he was looking for was a sandwich, some whiskey or his next hit.

INTERNALLY FLAWLESS
So why is it, us who have done the work on ourselves, our craft, built our wealth to be flawless, extremely rare and beautiful, attempt to share our heart, work, money with individuals who have no frame of reference or appreciation for our value? 

Oftentimes, when asked "Who is your customer?" The aspiring entrepreneur will say, "women."
As of 2014, there are 3.52 billion on Planet Earth, so WHICH women? Who are they, where are they, what are their challenges, what do they dream of, what do they read, etc.? If you're a business owner, freelance maker, man or woman in an intimate relationship, when are you going to get CLEAR on who that 1% is that can truly value, appreciate and cherish what you have to offer? 
 
1000 TRUE FANS
I love when Kevin Kelley came up with the concept of "1000 True Fans." He says, if you can develop 1000 true fans who will travel to see you, buy any project you launch, product you offer, you will do well in your work. In relationship, most of us only require ONE man or ONE woman out of billions so don't you think it's okay to be super picky and desire more than a pretty girl or a man with a job? Which investments are worthy of your cash and will bring in the highest return?

Several notes ago I spoke about the Pareto Principle i.e. the 20/80 rule. Continuing with that perspective, doesn't it make sense to focus our energy, time and resources on the 1% who appreciate, value and are actually looking for what we have to offer them. 

extremely rare. beautiful. flawless.
Only the 1% top earners in this world can afford to acquire one of the most expensive jewelry pieces in the world. With 11 to 55 million dollar price tags, these highly sought after and precious pieces by Cartier, Bulgari, Garrard, Chopard, Harry Winston, etc. are perceived value. What is extremely rare, beautiful and flawless is precious, sought after and valued; only appreciated by those who understand or perceive the value.

If you're a Cartier-level woman or man/maker/entrepreneur, how could you expect a dollar-store level consumer to not only "afford," but appreciate the value of and maintain the Cartier? It makes sense to continue to cultivate a relationship with the 1% who are looking for and will be jubilant to actually find that extremely rare, beautiful and flawless gem that you are.

In relationships, enterprise, you don't require or really want everybody's attention. Keep it clean and simple.  Jill Scott said it best, "Everything ain't for everybody."

focus on the 1%
What 1% are you going to invest your focus, time, energy and resources on this year?

More on this topic in this Sunday's Workshop "Love. Beauty. Wealth. You Set The Standard."

Thanks for reading.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua
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Day 8 of 13/13 Moons 
First Quarter Moon

​Source :http://www.wonderslist.com/10-most-expensive-jewellery-pieces-in-the-world/

Insight #3 . . .
Years ago me and my eldest daughter attended T. Harv Eker's paradigm shifting weekend experience "The Millionaire Mind" where he introduced what he called "the world's easiest and most effective money management system."  It's a system my girls still use to this day and they are really good with money.  The system was to have six or seven jars in which you by percentage distributed or allocated your money.

The first and MOST important jar was 10% in the FFA (Financial Freedom Account). The money in this jar was NEVER to be spent. OK, back then when I first heard this, it messed with my head. When I was a pre-teen and would get money my mother would kind of clown me about how "my money was just burnin' my pocket." I liked the experience of buying things and bringing them home. 

"DON'T KILL THE GOOSE!"
So hearing that there was money, 10% of everything you received that you put away and NEVER SPENT was something I was really uncomfortable with. He reasoned that this money was to create a "golden goose."  You were to live from the eggs that this "golden goose" created in profit, dividends, interest from placing it in an interest-bearing account. He further instructed to leave your golden goose in trust to charity, church, children, legacy as the "golden goose" that they can't spend because after all you "DON'T KILL THE GOOSE!" He explained that this money acts as a magnet for attracting more wealth.

​MAGNET FOR ATTRACTING WEALTH
When I think of women who are in their full unapologetic expression, we are magnetic and highly valuable to anyone who's life we touch. Guided by a Source greater than ourselves, it's no mistake that the most powerful men in the world have an enigmatic woman by their side. Wise men know that having a good woman in their corner, creating home (psychologically and physically), and guiding their children is his greatest asset and power that brings eternal dividends to their legacy.

I deeply believe that every masculine man is looking for a queendom or a muse to serve, protect and cultivate. This is the quality that I most appreciate about masculine men that they look to be of use and affirmed by the feminine and not quite balanced unless he is needed by his muse. You'll NEVER hear me declare that crazy mantra: "I don't need a man." Never! Yesterday as I watched two very intelligent and strong men strategize how to get a huge armoire up to my second floor, I said to them, "What on Earth would women do without men? We definitely need you."

CULTIVATE YOUR GOOSE BABY
Because of our value as women on this planet, in the home, wherever we are really is legendary, it's good to recognize that we are "his" golden goose. Even if you're not in a partnership, we are the "golden goose" of our home or wherever we have others that depend on us. As feminine women, our #1 priority needs to be in the cultivation of ourselves as "the golden goose" who produces golden eggs (empowered mates, our children, our creative works, etc. ). When we place cultivating ourselves our ability to magnetize all of things in this life that make it yummy, magic, miracles and grace in our lives will be consistent and flowing.  

More on this topic in this Sunday's Workshop "Love. Beauty. Wealth. You Set The Standard."
Details below. 

Thanks for reading.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua
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Day 6 of 13/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent 

21 Insights In 4 Nights
During the Winter Solstice I got quiet for four days and four nights and emerged with twenty-one insights; some were reminders, some were epiphanies, others were ideas.

There's a song from 1977 that says,
"If it don't fit, don't force it. 
Just relax and let it go.
Just cause that's how you want it
Doesn't mean it will be so."

by Kellee Patterson
​"If It Don't Fit Don't Force It"

Insight #2 . . .
Abraham, Bruce and Maya were spot on.
Abraham (Hicks) said "Go with the flow. No resistance. No struggle."
Bruce (Lee) said: "Be Like Water My Friend."
Maya (Angelou) said: "In everything give thanks."

I take them all to mean FLOW without resistance.
Because we live in an electromagnetic Universe, which is a feminine force of attraction, I, you, we get to practice working our power and magic through MAGNETISM.

Any energy, vibe, action, attention, focus becomes a "Yes!" in this Universal law of Cause and Effect i.e. Attraction. So even your "No!" is becomes a "Yes." There is no read of what you do and don't want, do or don't like only that you are giving it energy.

So giving thanks for it all, no matter what it looks like, feels like is again to be in the energy, vibe, action of allowing, no resistance, no struggle, but complete surrender and trust in the provision of the Universe, it's laws, our Spirit Allies and all of the good seeds we've planted for better. Giving thanks, being like water and going with the flow is an acknowledgment that regardless of appearances "All is well." It will turn out. It will benefit you in the long-run, even the short-run. Just flow and trust.

go with the flow.
Thanks for reading.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua
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Day 5 of 13/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent 

S a v e   T h e   D a t e  
U P C O M I N G    E V E N T S ​​

J  A  N  U  A  R  Y

21 Insights In 4 Nights
During the Winter Solstice I got quiet for four days and four nights and emerged with twenty-one insights; some were reminders, some were epiphanies, others were ideas.

One afternoon, I was having a moment where I was just daydreaming in gratitude thinking about the things I appreciated about someone and poof! I got a phone call from that person as I was daydreaming about them in gratitude.
​Insight #1 . . .
came as a reminder that whatever you desire more of, daydream in gratitude about it. Speak in appreciation about it and you will find that you experience more of the same. Many of us get into the complain game and because like Kendrick Lamar says, "Life ain't nothing but a fat vagina," we get EXACTLY what we profess. The electromagnetic Universe in it's "YES" state is always listening to our directives and then pregnant gives birth to what we've uttered from the heart, without judgment, for better or for worse. 
gratitude multiplies.
Thanks for reading.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua
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Day 2 of 13/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent

S a v e   T h e   D a t e  
U P C O M I N G    E V E N T S ​

Two Designers + An Energy Healer +  A Biz Coach + A Celebrity Makeup Artist + A Perfumier
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​I hope you had a chance to delve into the precious gems and gold of these women featured in my #iAmHer360 series. If you've missed any of them click this link for the playlist: #iAmHer360.

"I take life as it's given to me and I think that
​has made me a really happy person." 
​S H A R M I L A   V A R A D A R A J A N

#iAmHer360 speaks to seeing other women as yourself and the celebration of every way that any woman chooses to express herself. Today we continue with another chat in the #iAmHer360: SuperWomen & Goddesses Series with Indian-born Sharmila Varadarajan. Across the seas from Chicago to India while she's on holiday.

After an arranged marriage by her parents in her homeland, Sharmila came to America twenty years ago with an education in Cardiac Rehabilitation & Exercise Science. Although she looks twenty-five, she's actually been happily married to her perfect man for twenty-five years.
I'm suspecting she may be a vampire. ;o)

We met at a mutual friend's women's luncheon where pretty much all the women in attendance were married . . . happily for decades.  I was inspired and excited that this was even possible in this day and age. Like-minded women who come together on a regular basis to bond.

Love . . . Indian Style

T  H  E     C  H  A  T     H  I  G  H  L  I  G  H  T  S 
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On Life's Rough Patches
"Life is just beautiful. It's taken such a nice path...
it's given me a lot of mental strength, even though certain patches were rough I think that gave strength. 
​So I took the strength instead of the negativity from that."

No Children but . . .
"I accept that this is how my life is so I'm going to take it as it's given to me and I think that has made me a really happy person." 

On Getting Outside Your Circle
"I try to read, try to listen to people, see the world and their outlook.
This has changed me quite a bit. I see if you only stay in a circle you only know that, but if you move outside or travel and see the world, the people out there, you learn so much.
There's so much out there which we hardly know. We just know a bit of it."

Her Motto On Caring For Self First
"I take care of myself first. The "inner me" is what I think the beauty for every woman is and we need to take care of that part. If that's taken care of I think the outside beauty comes automatically and I truly believe in that. It's inside first. Working in cardiac rehabilitation, I believe in prevention. Whatever is in store for us, that will be there, whatever God has given us. But our duty is to take care of this body. We need to cherish that first and everything else will just follow.

Her Advice For Women To Be In Relationships Where They Feel Cherished & Appreciated
"First of all any marriage at the beginning needs a lot of work,
understanding, love, care - all that has to be done.

"You just have to stand up for each other's likings or give respect, space. I truly, truly believe in that. If my husband wants to do something I don't discourage him, I say "Please go for it!" 
That way, he has his space and I have my space. I believe that's truly the success of the marriage.
I have not stopped him and then we have our time. There's his time, my time and our time. It can't just be our time, all the time. It's just not possible. I think everybody needs a space where you have to think how do you evolve as a person all along and not be there in the person's face all the time.
I think that's one of the best things I've found in our relationship which has worked just magically.
I tell my husband to "go enjoy and then you can come back and we'll be together. Whatever you want to do, go for it!"  He gives me my space and I give him his space and then we do a lot of things together. We travel a lot, we talk about everything pretty much, our day-today things. That's probably what has kept our marriage going from my end, but if you ask my husband he would probably say a different thing."

On Resolving Conflicts, Confrontations, Confusion
"If there is anything that bothers us, we would talk and settle it right then and there that night and not carry it over and spoil the next day because today is today and tomorrow is tomorrow. If in this moment it didn't work, clarify it and get it over with, like today, not carry it over tomorrow and feel bad for it, argue about it, fight about it, nag about it. I just can't do that."

On The Benefits Of Arranged Marriage
"The difference about our gathering of friends is that it is a group of culturally like-minded
women coming together. The roots of it are important, that's where we all come from, where
the roots are much more stronger. That's probably where we're all coming from. We're all educated. It was an arranged marriage for us, as it was with my parents and grandparents.  
You kind of accept the person completely, there's no choice after all. You have to adjust, forgive...that's what we've been taught. It goes both ways. We all have good men in our life
and that is a blessing. It's all give and take, that's what they taught us.
We are happy with what we have and we try to make what we have  better all the time." 

On Respect, Support & Hardship
"There's a lot of closeness because we are away from home and we like to hang onto each other because it's the only family you've got. When you're away from home you kind of understand the person more because you've gone through hardship a lot more without anybody's support. Because you're away from home the only support you have is your husband, or your wife. So you start building respect for each other over a period of time is what I've found. We've encouraged each other during hardships. We've seen in and out of each other without anybody else being there so I think that creates a very strong bond." 

​Thanks for reading and listening. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 8 of 12/13 Moons 
Waxing Gibbous

You meet your Beloved. They are supportive, wealthy, adventurous and you feel as if all in the world is possible in their midst. Prior to them entering your life, you'd been solo for awhile, but started to just settle in to what was and simply appreciate everything in your life. You became quite content with the abundant blessings in your life. And then THEY showed up!

YOUR HONEY
In this new chapter of your life, your time together is simply...magic!  Your new mate is generous, attentive, and you're oh so appreciative...

until over time, you become accustomed to the magic as your new normal. So as hueman beings tend to do, we begin to take for granted not only the grand but even the simple blessings that show up in our lives. What you once experienced as magical, miraculous and amazing is now just another day in the life. You stop saying "Thank you, I appreciate you." and over time the support, generosity and adventure that once existed from your Beloved wanes. 

You both get wrapped up in your separate lives, drift apart and now you've got your eye on someone else, looking for some magic. What changed it all? Nothing changed about this person other than your feeling of appreciation, gratitude and thanksgiving for the presence of this person in your life.

YOUR MONEY
I've found that prosperity, wealth and cash flow can be like the Beloved you got bored with. Although, there is so much prosperity in our lives, sometimes we tend to overlook that abundance and begin to think, feel and speak poverty, limitation and scarcity. It is only through the neglect and care of our blessings and improper perception that our wealth wanes and poverty is on our heels like a virus. It's been said, "The rich get richer and the poor get poorer." There's a reason for that. 

THE RITUAL OF GRATITUDE
Being in the Spirit of gratitude, appreciation and thanksgiving is being in the Spirit of the Divine. Being in appreciation is instantly being in the vibration, frequency or energy of God (good), the omnipotent, omnipowerful, omniscient. The first thing that I do when I open my eyes every (ok, most) morning is to give thanks for waking up and a litany of things I am grateful for...from my beating heart to my healthy mother to the cash in my purse.

As a metaphysician, I am clear that what I appreciate literally appreciates. The dictionary defines the verb "appreciate" a few ways:

1. recognize the full worth of,
2. understand fully and
3. rise in value or price.

So in essence "when we recognize the full worth of something it rises in value." 

CELEBRATE
your blessings and blissings. Everything big and small. Mama Maya [Angelou] said:
"In EVERYTHING give thanks."  


So at the top of a new week, a new day, a new hour, "What are you loving in your life? 
What is beautiful in your life? What are you saying "THANK YOU. More Please." for?  
Acknowledge it and watch it multiply.

SHARE this note and what you're thankful, grateful or appreciative of and watch the magic, adventure, miracles return to your life like a Beloved that has returned home.

Thanks for reading. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 5 of 12/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent

Ever experience such flow, beauty and benevolence in your life that you begin to get nervous and feel cautious, even anxious in your heart? ...like you stole something...looking over your shoulder, ready to run for cover in the moment you realize that it was all too good to be true. After all, you've been done so wrong in the past, right?

YOU TUNED OUT THO...
To be fair, your inner voice said "nah, not this one." The red flags were waving but you ignored them because in the moment it felt soooo good. So sometimes yes, that is indeed the case, "it's TOO good to be true."

. . . but you were warned.

REAPING & SOWING
But then there IS a point where you're rewarded for all of the good you've ever done. Like the moon becoming full, like the seeds you planted finally blossoming, like an enterprise that finally turns a profit. Of course, yes, we've all done our dirt and been unkind, but if ESSENTIALLY you've only meant good, intended love then the only thing keeping you from your ultimate reward is YOU. Your THINKING, MINDSET & CONSCIOUSNESS that you don't somehow deserve the good that shows up at your door will stop the flow of blessings to you. 

WHAT WILL YOU BE HAVING?
After all the Universe is an obedient waiter/waitress, standing awaiting your directive, "order"...listening to your consciousness, heart and declarations. The laws YOU create for yourself by simply declaring your view of the world and your life. If you say it's too good to be true when it really wasn't then purely by universal law it has to morph into your directive.  

Conversely if you've done your dirt but on some level still feel you deserve goodness and the beauty of life, the Universe is also listening to that "order" [directive]. That's why sometimes the most dastardly of folks seem to get away with murder. Man may create his court rooms, statutes and ordinances but the ULTIMATE COURT ROOM is Universal Law, the true law which is insoluble. When you violate the laws of nature...of the Universe, you WILL pay a price. Life may not be fair, but it is just. When you follow the laws of the Universe and nature you are rendered the spoils of that also.

HELL YEAH! I DESERVE IT
So I say YES, I DESERVE THE GOOD IN MY LIFE and it's NOT TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE because I'm listening to my inner oracle, I've planted innumerable good cosmic seeds and have handed my life over to the expression of love, power and beauty in the world and those things render only more love, power, beauty and all sort and form of miraculous magic in my life.

If you're having a tough time feeling like you deserve the good that has shown up at your door, grab some paper and pen, then muse on the beauty you've contributed to the world. Give yourself some credit. Remember George Bailey's ephiphany in the film "It's A Wonderful Life?" Imagine that if you'd never been born, how many lives and things in our world would be ENTIRELY different? Every choice each of us makes changes, molds, transforms the ALL.

Yes you ARE that powerful. You never know if your friendly greeting to a stranger passing by gave them the will to go on another day and then perhaps their existence created something in the world that also altered the paths of many others in a profound way. Just like that. One smile.

THE GOODNESS ACCOUNT
In every moment you're building up an account of goodness in the world. Fix your mind and be clear about the good and beauty you contribute to the world. Universal law says that if you are receptive and in alignment with that goodness you will be in awe of the blessings that are waiting to overwhelm you. 

Yes it is good and it IS true.

Thanks for reading. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 3 of 12/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent

wealth.
love.
​success.
Yeah we say we desires these things, but are we REALLY ready to receive them into
our lives if they came knocking at our door TODAY?

When you get that big pay day, do you have a financial management and
investment structure that will insure those seeds harvest more fruit?

When he/she shows up are you ready in every way to receive them fully into your life?

When you get that call and have the attention of the world finally,
are you ready to handle all the interest that comes with it?

My friend, beautiful and prolific jewelry designer K-Fleye and
Will Smith have been saying for years:
"Stay ready so you don't have to get ready."

I got an unexpected text on a Wednesday evening at 7 pm to be across the country the next
morning to do makeup for a TV series. I made it happen and was there.

 A metaphysician knows that if you don't make space for things in your life they have a hard time getting in. Sometimes they will drop in anyway, and as the unannounced guest looks for a place to get cozy, you've got to scurry about trying to pull it together to make their visit comfortable.
You've been hoping, praying, desiring and conjuring but didn't believe they were coming so soon.
 That's the funny thing about life, each day really is an adventure
because you never know what or who is going to show up.
Everyday we are creating a legend.

It's an amazing phenomena that every time I clean my house and let go of unnecessary possessions, I get a call for an assignment, product orders come in or otherwise somehow attract prosperity.

The holiday season is here, with the powerful winter solstice leading us into a brand spanking new year.  
This is a really good time to explore what we need to do to get ready for wealth, love, success
if we're truly serious about attracting, being, having those things. 

Get your passport.
Keep a suitcase ready.
Keep your toenails done.
Lover ready undies.
Have your EPK (electronic press kit) updated.
Products stocked.

Let's get and stay ready for all the wealth, love and success that our hands and heart can hold, ​because any day is a good day for miracles to occur and the legend to continue.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 16 of 11/13 Moons 
Waning Gibbous

Ever wonder why people consistently fail at their New Year's resolutions?  It's the wrong timing. 

Whatever you are focused on during the Winter Solstice will be amplified during the next 365 days. For any goal, vision, desire you have, there is not a better time than the Winter Solstice, the longest nights of the year to cultivate your genius within by being still and listening. 

The most Ancient Egyptians were legendarily advanced because they discovered the secret of cultivating the genius within. In the cocoon of darkness, dreams, visions and insight come forth like none other. 

Although the Winter Solstice is over one month away, we know that the seeds for manifestation began yesterday on
11.11.16.

​​Dec. 19 to Dec. 25: Is the Winter Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere, the four days and four nights when the sun stops its progression are the shortest days (9 hr. and 8 min.) and longest nights (14 hr. 51 min.) of the year.

Winter Solstice: Wednesday, 21 December, 2016 at 5:44 AM EST

I've personally observed the Winter Solstice since 2012 and host an annual observance community on Facebook. A great deal of my observance practices were inspired by the work of Ra Un Nefer Amen of Ausar Auset Society. 
​Not on Facebook? Shoot me an email and I'll find a way to include you in the goings-on. 

This year's observance will include key events:
1. Pre-Winter Solstice Cleanse/Detox beginning on Sunday, Nov. 27th
2. Global Conference Call
3. Celebration & Gathering at Metamoorphose Wellness Temple on Friday, Dec. 30th.

The basic protocol during these four days (​​Dec. 19 to Dec. 25) are the following: 

1. Eat lightly.

2. When the Sun sets don't use any artificial light.

3. Quiet your environment.

4. Refrain from speaking.

and 

5. L I S T E N 

Be ready to write down what you hear and see. 
When the Sun returns you will be the newborn Queen/King ready to serve, receive and shine.
This is the ULTIMATE preparation for a 2017 filled with Health, Love, Unity & Prosperity.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 14 of 11/13 Moons 
Waxing Gibbous

Having not read Shonda Rhimes' book "A Year of Yes," I was still inspired to deem 2016 my "Year of Yes." After watching "Yes Man" starring Jim Carrey, I was fascinated about how more beautiful and adventurous my life could be by simply receiving the opportunities presented to me. 

Through saying "Yes." this year I've:

• had an exciting love affair,
• launched a passion project,
• created some roots and a great workspace in my hometown once again,
• engaged in my family and friendships on a deeper level,
• hopped on a plane at the last minute to take advantage of a great opportunity,
• worked out like never before and transformed my body, 
• while a bit of an introvert, I committed to sharing myself with you "mostly daily" through this online notebook

Saying "Yes." in a Spirit of Love, surrender and being receptive can lead to a labyrinth of blessings, adventures and beautiful synchronicities.

F*CK FEAR
How do I, you, we trust life, ourselves, others and not be in fear? At the end of this note, I've got a challenge for you. 

​When I think about the saying "Ignorance Is Bliss," it's a bit true. I did the most brazen things in my early twenties not because I was necessarily courageous but because I didn't know to have concerns, fears or hang ups. I walked into the offices of power players, laid out my vision and created enduring relationships. When I think about that girl, she's my muse, my rockstar. 

YOU KNOW TOO MUCH
We get older, and consume way too much fear, lack and scarcity through the eyes of "grown-ups," media and our painful experiences.

REALITY CHECK
If I think about the fact that things ALWAYS work out, even when they don't, it reactivates that free-spirited adventurer within. Knowing that my highest good is always at hand, I can trust The Most High, the Universe, the Spirit Allies and my inner Oracle i.e. my Heart. Through being even more intentional about receiving and following-through with opportunities I've identified hidden layers of concerns, fears and hang ups that are just frankly out-dated and illogical. Those damn concerns, fears and hang ups of ours short circuit and block my/your/our ability to serve, share my/your/our gifts, wisdom and love with others.

OFF WITH YOUR HEAD
So . . . if we started or continued to ignore our monkey minds (survival-focused) and get into our hearts (not emotion, but our inspiration/passion) and be led by that - the magical and miraculous will continue/begin in our lives. In our SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES culture, we believe (be + live): REAL superwomen think, feel and act with a mind that anything is possible and REAL goddesses inspire life in everything they touch. It's the only way if I/you/we are to really work the highest power and magic. So . . . 

RIGHT NOW IDENTIFY . . . 
at least one b*llshit concern, fear or hangup that you KNOW is illogical, challenge it and put it to eternal rest. It's our time to win, progress, and accomplish. Every accomplishment we make juices us up to create another and another and another. And not just accomplishment for accomplishment sake or our ego but the expression of our divinity, beauty and power within.

DO THIS.
I want you to:

1. IDENTIFY: a) WHAT ILLOGICAL CONCERN, FEAR OR HANGUP THAT YOU ARE PUTTING TO REST and b) WHAT SMALL FEAT YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH THIS WEEK. Then . . . 
2. TAG ME on social media (instagram: @akuaauset, facebook @akua auset or @*akua auset *) or email me ([email protected]) . . . 
3. TELLING ME about a) WHAT ILLOGICAL CONCERN, FEAR OR HANGUP THAT YOU ARE PUTTING TO REST and b) WHAT SMALL FEAT YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH  THIS WEEK.

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 8 of 11/13 Moons 
Waxing Crescent

​The Spirit of Order calls us to honor the rhythm of the cosmos and its enduring predictability.
The Spirit of Chaos calls us to honor beingness and allowing of this moment.

There's a time for order and there's a time for chaos.
When we bring them together interdependently, there is a marriage which brings creation. 
In every spiritual school of thought we are invited to walk in the beauty of balance.

The electromagnetic Universe (feminine) that we live in is governed by the universal law of Maat which brings order. Maat is an ancient goddess from the most ancient Egyptian (Kemetic) tradition. The Spirit of Maat represents order, truth, balance, harmony and justice. Maat has her laws (universal) and those laws have been interpreted by Tehuti, the god of wisdom mathematically (Maat). The most ancient Egyptians were guided by these laws in their daily 42 Declarations of Innocence. Apparently prior to foreign influences and invasion, the most ancient Egyptians maintained a Maatian civilization that lived in peace for thousands of years with no need for police. My friend Kajara NiaYaa NebtHet wrote a book called "Light As A Feather: 42 Laws of Maat For Children" on this topic for children.  
​
I digress.
The bottom line is that being alarmed out of your sleep in the morning and popping out of bed to put out fires, meet deadlines and be pulled by someone else's train all day is not going to create a life that you deserve where you are cherished, appreciated and compensated on every level.

Before Michael Jordan ever stepped out on the court to perform the superhuman feats that he was able to do time and time again, he had a pre-game ritual. I perceive every day of my life as stepping out on the court to play so I also have a pre-game ritual. My "pre-game" ritual is based on the things that I require to be prepared to play at my highest capability and to perform superhuman feats that I'm able to do time and time again.

A couple of days ago, I hosted a LIVE Facebook event and the women on the call unanimously admitted to putting EVERYONE else's requirements and desires before their own requirements and desires. Some might see forsaking your own needs as being a saint or sweet. Being a martyr for others may give you saint status, but at the end of the day it doesn't work because it's unsustainable. At some point you will burnout and crash. And holistically speaking, in every case (wife, mother, employee, entrepreneur) we set the standard of how others will cherish, appreciate and compensate us as well as be influenced as to how they will conduct their own lives. How we care for ourselves and live our lives has a domino effect on our relationships, families, community and culture. Women are the enduring example and first teacher in every context we exist in. 

If you expect to live in an environment where each person is cherished and appreciated in their relationships, as well as be paid top dollar for their abilities then YOU'VE/WE'VE got to set the standard. 

On Sunday, 6th November, from 2 to 4 PM, I'll be hosting a FREE Workshop: "How To Create Your Daily Healing Beauty Ritual." If you would like to attend in-person or online, please send me an email ([email protected]) or text (312.566.7506) as soon as possible, NOW.

Until then begin to GET CLEAR on what it is you require daily to really perform at your best everyday and get it in BEFORE heading out to save the world. 

♡ ☆ ♀
Akua

​Day 24 of 10/13 Moons 
Waning Crescent

"You Must Set The Standard."
PLEASE STOP AT :45 seconds then continue on to the note.

You can watch the rest of the video later, because today's note is all about the first :45 seconds of this video. "You Must Set The Standard" is about setting the standard for all relationships in our lives by doing one simple thing.

Here's the transcript of the first 45 seconds:
Mind if I ask you a question?
How did you end your day yesterday, then how did you begin this day?
The reason I ask is that there are so many women who routinely roll out of bed every morning and look up and it's 1 o'clock in the afternoon to find they forgot to eat...but yet the children, the husband, the boss and the clients have all been taken care of.
If that's you, you KNOW that's not going to work for long. 
If you expect to be cherished and appreciated in your relationships,
paid top dollar for your abilities then YOU'VE got to set the standard. 

I'm Akua Auset of akua-auset.com.
My name Akua means "the sweet messenger" and my zone of genius is facilitating transformation. I've been given one job to do, and it's a very sacred job and that's to inspire women and girls to be magical and powerful - because our marriages, our children, every relationship in our community depends on it. 

HOW DO YOU END AND BEGIN YOUR DAYS?
In tomorrow's note, I'm going to go into more about this topic.

THIS EVENING at 7 pm CST, I'm going to do a LIVE Facebook Event in our
SUPERWOMEN & GODDESSES community about how to you end and begin your days.
I'd love to hear from you on this topic, so set your alerts and alarms to join us at 7 pm CST. 
CLICK THE IMAGE above to join our community and to attend the event this evening. 

This Last Quarter Moon week is a good time to let go of habits, behaviors
and things in our lives that don't work for us. Let's begin that letting go process.

SEE YOU TONIGHT!

So . . . whether you followed directions and stopped the video at 45 seconds or not, I'll explain what this video is for.  For the last month, ​I've been part of a Mindset Alchemy™for Female Entrepreneurs course facilitated by one of my favorite clients: Tracy Neely of TracyNeely.com.
We met when I was hired to "d0" her face for her promotional photo shoot. Gorgeous right?
She's wearing A U S E T : B E A U T Y cosmetics.